Ladies, I am sorry but this post is not career related. I am not sure where to get help from. A few weeks ago, we moved in from our apartment to my in-laws’ home in the suburbs (cont)

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If being with the in-laws will cause you anxiety then you will be of no use to anyone (don’t mean that in a callous way). If you’re not able to cope, I suggest staying at your home and be and be a shoulder for your SO to lean on by calling, FaceTime, Zoom etc

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(Cont) A few weeks ago, we moved in from our apartment to my in-laws’ home in the suburbs cause someone in our building tested positive and my husband freaked the f*ck out 🤦‍♀️When we first moved into that house, my in-laws were not there. They were out of the country. A few days ago, they decided to move back. I panicked. Literally had a panic attack and told my husband that I am uncomfortable being in the house with his parents around and I need to go back to our apartment. He was understanding, I came back to our apartment. He gave a BS reason to his parents. I don’t know if they bought it or not but long story short, I am in our apartment and he is with his parents taking care of them while they quarantine for 2 weeks. Things haven’t been easy. His parents are frail, they are going through a lot of anxiety due to the covid situation and he is having to care for them by himself. I, over here am feeling extremely guilty and thats why I am writing this post. I could have sucked it up, be a martyr and supported him through this. But I chose to remove myself. I just thought that if I stayed there, I would have had constant panic attacks (I dont like my in laws) and then I would have behaved badly and that would have ruined my relationship with them, so I left. I need help and support dealing with this guilt. Please help

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Unfortunately, you’re going to have to bite the bullet and go back there. Figure out some good coping mechanisms in the meantime.

Stay where you are. Not your parents.

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Have this conversation with your husband. A true heart to heart.

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Sweetheart, your well being and mental health is just as important as other people. You can’t “suck up” panic attacks and anxiety, it’s very unhealthy and being in environments that cause that, can actually make you sick. You made a rational decision that is in the best interest of all. You can look up delivery services for groceries, take out and house essentials, and help your husband transition the support externally once he is ready.

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