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Ladies, I have to go to a baby shower this weekend and I’ve never been to one before. I already ordered a gift from the registry, do I need to take anything with me? Am I expected to Contribute...

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If you don’t know her exceptionally well, feel free to send a gift with your regrets. No point in sitting around a shower with a bunch of ladies you don’t know, playing games you likely won’t enjoy.

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Gift is plenty! Now just get ready for super boring and/or uncomfortable shower games...

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Nope, a present is sufficient. Don’t bring food or drinks unless it was specified as a potluck. (Besides, some pregnant women have weird food aversions and they can’t drink wine either.)

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Thanks ladies! The gift from the registry went to the moms address and the baby shower is described as a “a few women getting together for brunch” at a restaurant... to not be an odd one out, maybe I’ll take a “token” gift as suggested like a book?

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... to the brunch? I got the invite from the mom to be and I don’t know her exceptionally well, she’s the wife of my one of my husbands childhood friends.

Unclear from your post if the gift you ordered from the registry is going directly to the couple? If so, you do want to bring a gift of some kind to the shower. The main thing that happens at a shower (other than silly games at some) is present-opening. So do take something—an outfit, board books, etc

Yes, unlike a wedding where it’s nice to not haul gifts to the scene, a baby shower it’s expected the gift is brought and the opening of all the gifts is one of the “main events”

Gift is definitely plenty! Nice job as utilizing the registry. A nice supplement would be a baby book instead of a card or some diapers, but only if it fits the budget.

Ohhh I didn’t understand “contribute” correctly then. In that case it’s not clear whether you are supposed to pay, and I would say be prepared to do so. Proper etiquette would say guests do not generally pay, but proper etiquette would also say that moms to be don’t throw their own showers. Usually this would be organized by a friend, who could potentially ask guests to chip in. 🤷‍♀️

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