Ladies I need some advice:

Long-ish story short, I have two women in my life who at different points I was good friends with, but now feel excluded by - and I’m really not sure what to do

On one hand - I acknowledge that all friendships aren’t meant to last forever, and that realistically who these women are now doesn’t align with the type of people I’d want to have as a close friend. I can find them a little petty & negative. So I’d say 90% of the time I am perfectly comfortable letting…cont

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Move on. If you see them or they reach out, be cordial.

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Just be nice to them when you see them and don’t overthink the situation. If you try to talk to them about why you grew apart you’ll only be stirring up unnecessarily drama.

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Yeah that’s what I’m leaning towards, I just have to get over it in my head and then be cordial when I see them

The status quo continue and not broaching the topic with them.

On the other hand - they live about 40 minutes from me and are connected to a few folks who are very important to me (some close friends and they sometimes see my boyfriend). So even if they exclude me, which normally I wouldn’t mind, they are still 1/4 of a degree of separation from my life - which frankly makes me a bit uncomfortable.

It almost makes me want to address with them why we grew apart or how we can address the elephant in the room for the future. I’m honestly not sure why we stopped being friendly. Since I know they can be petty, I worry that I may have said or done something to accidentally offend - and if that’s the case I’d almost rather address it and move on. But at the same time we’re not in high school anymore, if they wanted to patch things up they would.

Thinking about it a lot this morning because they are currently hanging with my SO and other close friend, but I’m torn on addressing this since it really usually does not bother me at all until they get a little too close to my life now, which happens probably once every other month

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Idk, I’d probably feel uncomfortable if my male significant other chose to spend time hanging out with some girls I find petty, all without me.

Is that potentially the issue here? If it’s not, then ignore the comment… but I’d want to know why my SO finds them a good time when you think they are not interesting/petty women.

Lmao he definitely holds the same opinion so I really don’t mind that they hang out, it’s tough because they’re part of a circle that both me and him have been in and out of the past few years.

He’s been more consistently involved because I’ve moved around a bit. I’ve always felt the ebbs and flows of my friendship with those 2 girls specifically were natural, but this time it seems petty.

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