Ladies! I want a relationship and to find my person. However, whenever a good man treats me with tenderness or looks at me lovingly, I feel repelled. I love douchebags. Anyone else have this problem?

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Go to therapy. Learn about your attachment style, about your emotional history, where this was built from. Then rebuild it. It takes time but it’s worth it.

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Oh trust me, I already do! Anxious attachment style, always feel like I’m not good enough. I’m sure I’m not alone in this one, seems common with high achieving women.

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You and about 86% of the female population.

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Honey if I knew that, I’d be the richest woman in the world. 😂

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You don’t feel guilty about hurting a douchebag. You can’t get hurt with a douchebag because you already put the wall up. You expect bad behavior.

Tell yourself; You are worthy of love. You deserve happiness, joy and a relationship built on trust. Manifest self love by buying yourself a beautiful piece of rose quartz (crystal) and say your intentions to it. Ask for it to repel douchebags and open your heart to the vulnerability of true supportive love.

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Wow A1. where were you all my life!!!

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I love this thread. Glad it’s not just me. After my last bf (the only person I’ve given the time of day to in about 10 years) broke up w me, EVERYONE said, “You didn’t see he was a sociopath minus the violence?” I just can’t with myself. The only men I open up to are ones who have no emotions. Wtf.

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I found my perfect man who isnt too overtly affectionate but shows me he cares about me with his actions (grocery shopping or surprise dinner) and still challenges me/gets competitive with me in a fun way. Now Ive been craving his physical affection haha...

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It could also stem from the fact that you want someone to treat you with tenderness or look at you lovingly.. because it’s *you*, not just because they think that’s a “move”, if that makes sense? It’s about a genuine connection. If it feels contrived, I’d be repelled. I wouldn’t say I love douchebags, but I do want to know he’s not behaving this way instantly with every girl he meets, it should take time/work to have that genuine connection. Not sure that’s what you’re dealing with here, but could relate!

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Yes last week I was feeling guilty for finding Joe attractive from YOU, this week I’m getting hot over the new Dracula. I need help.

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