Ladies, if your husband is normally very good at gift giving, but with baby coming all of a sudden is šŸ™„, would you say something? Eg for my bday 2 weeks ago got me a ā€œshopping spreeā€ to pick out coming home outfit for baby. And he got me a ā€œpush presentā€ thatā€™s a Boppy for baby. These were things we were going to get anyway, and feels totally unspecial. I didnā€™t even want/ask for a push present, but the fact that he got a boppy & is calling it that is making me annoyed.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Oh welcome to being a mom. Where gifts for you are really gifts for the kid, the house, etc. šŸ˜‚
I think you should tell him - he sounds like heā€™s trying. So I guess I would tell him that while those gifts are definitely useful, you are headed into motherhood and just need some assurance that he sees you as his partner and not just ā€˜mom to his kid.ā€™ Then give him some ideas - maybe his go-to things like wine, etc. are just not options now and heā€™s scrambling or whatever but definitely help a dude out and point him in the right direction!

like

Great advice, thanks. Thatā€™s exactly how Iā€™m feeling, like Iā€™m not an individual in his eyes anymore

like

Heā€™s trying. It seems like an overreaction to getting a gift. Talk to him about what is at the heart of this but donā€™t dump on his gifts. Tell him you want to be made to feel special as a woman/partner, not just as a mom.

like

Be very open and honest with your feelings right now, even if to say, ā€œI donā€™t like that you did XYZ (whatever) but I donā€™t understand why myself. It made me feel ABC.ā€ Or ā€œI would have felt better if you had done DEF.ā€ And of course let him say the same things to you when necessary. This is good practice for when Baby comes. Itā€™s sooooooo helpful to talk talk talk about everything so that youā€™re both on the same page. Itā€™s very normal and common to start to feel distant from your spouse after Baby is born, but if you have been practicing being open and talking about things, it will be much easier to discuss how youā€™re both feeling and what each person needs.

Lol a push present thatā€™s for the baby is super lame...just tell him exactly what you want!! ā€œItā€™s time to upgrade my engagement ringā€ is what I said. šŸ˜‚

Related Posts

Any moms who really badly wanted a girl but ended up with a boy(s)? How do you feel now? Do you still want a girl? Would you try again? Does it matter really, or was it just in your head?

Had a difficult relationship with my mom growing up, so always wanted that closeness with my future daughter. FTM having a boy and a little disappointed, but feeling guilty for that too. Difficult pregnancy so likely won't have another. But I want a girl. šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø

Please no woke left gender drama responses. Thanks.

like

Child care stipend/coverage/benefit/assistance something...can companies make that a thing? It is getting super expensive without compromising quality šŸ˜¢

like

Any new parents here struggling with going back. I will be leaving my wee one for the first time next week & am really nervous & devastated. Would appreciate any tips or advice on getting through going back to work post baby.

like

Whatā€™s everyoneā€™s top five quick nutritious meals for your kiddos? I feel like my kid has been eating the same five meals forever. Need fresh ideas. Much appreciated!

like

Looking for hope & exceptions with this situation my inlaw (German citizen) is in. They came over on Fulbright and now is on O1 but in exile back in Germany. I know itā€™s a long shot but has anyone been in this situation and transitioned to permanent US residency? They are married to a US citizen and have a kid (born in US). Immigration attorneys are not super helpful on precedent.

like

If you were in a position to relocate, would you move to a locale where Baby Boomers are moving/retiring in a disproportionate #, w/the expectation your career success rate would be higher?

like

i just had sex with my wife after like 11 months (reason for the gap: pregnancy+new baby).

And. It. Was. Life-affirming.

likeupliftingfunny

Single parent here, have teenage kids(14 and 17) at home. Any experience with live in Au Pair or Nanny, any pointers on finding good ones

like

Favorite science show to watch as kid?

like

Trinity šŸ - what are maternity benefits like? Is there required tenure before you qualify? Much appreciated in advance. Thanks

like

Anyone return to work from maternity leave experience a major change in their role (i.e. getting sidelined or unofficially demoted in their role)? What steps did you take to address this?

like

Anyone else feel like family law is toxic and detrimental to the attorneyā€™s health/quality of life? My client was served w/ an order of protection against herā€”her ex is abusive and is gearing up for a custody battle. Of course the OP was filled with outrageous lies. My home-office phone and cell were ringing from 9:00pm- 12 am after she was servedā€¦..I am in my first trimester of pregnancy with my 2nd kid and suddenly feel like I donā€™t want to/cannot handle this type of toxicity.ā€¦continuedā€¦.

like

My first therapy appointment tomorrow! Iā€™ve never dealt with depression before having my second kid and my PPD was/is rough! Filling out the intake form I basically had to list out all the things Iā€™ve dealt with - rape, mom issues, death in family during pandemic, kid hit by car, ppd, and a slew of over thingsā€¦ looking forward to working through these things over time, whatever that might look like.

like

I was just bitched out by a PM who (according to his LinkedIn profile) was a student four years ago, while the people pleaser baby ACD nodded and placated the PM. Some jobs you earn the bucks...

like

Can one quit after taking paternity leave or is there something that say you need to come back for a certain time period in PwC policy?

like

Sigh. Do you have friends or families that are just like popping out kids and getting pregnant like it's eating dinner? Dunno how they do it but man sometimes it's just difficult to hear all these good news... knowing that we should be happy but like sometimes secretly thinking like can you pace yourself.. while some of us are having a hard time just getting 1!!

likehelpful

Hey guysā€¦ Iā€™m a case worker in child safety and Iā€™m someone who loves being outdoors/dies at a desk all day. Iā€™m hoping to organise that at least once a week I can go to a cafe and catch up on all my case notes that need to go into the system.
So far the only reason Iā€™ve been told no is that ā€œif you do then everyone will want to and then no one will be in the officeā€ ā€¦ how can I convince them that I work better out of the office and get this freedom & mental break for myself?

like

Does anyone have input on an au pair? We are expecting our fourth child. So we will have four under four. Iā€™m thinking that hiring an au pair would be more cost effective and convenient than daycare but Iā€™d love to hear about some personal experiences. Thanks in advance!

like

I feel like I am failing my kid by having them in daycare with these increasing covid, flu and rsv cases. Shes 5 months old and already has had RSV, covid and has been coughing everyday since I put her in daycare two months ago. Please Mamas tell me Im not crazy for being stressed outšŸ˜¢

like

Hope to learn more if you bought an apt in Manhattan, or if you decided against it (renting/moving to upstate/Long Island/Jersey). My husband and I are considering to have a baby soon and are thinking of buying and living in Manhattan for the next 10 years or so (looking at property under $2M). Please share what you considered as you were making the decision - I hate throwing away rent but also donā€™t want to trap ourselves in significant financial obligations. Thanks!

like

More Posts

I'm curious, how much do MBA student ambassadors make?

like

Comscore allowed to measure FB? I'll believe it when I see it.

like

Iā€™m doing some research on error and empathy. Has anyone come across any research on customer behavior, such as helping them cope with difficulties online and correcting errors. Iā€™m reading and hearing no one likes ā€œWe sorryā€ interactions.

Looking to join Holcim a cement company as an Electrical Engineer I in Alabama.
What is a fair pay with roughly 2 years experience and an EIT license.

Is $80,000 fair to both me and the company. Since I'm really on the cusp of being an Electrical Engineer II?

like

I am a salesforce developer, I want to do salesforce admin stuff on the side. Its usually super easy and I could probably do like 10 hours a week of work. But idk how to find some business to hire me for like 40 hours a month. Small shops aren't usually using recruiters I would think?

like

Hi allā€¦ I would like to know if any have started and have been successful as an Etsy seller. Please share any insight and experiences. Thanks

like

Uncorking a new bottle for the b-day. Iā€™ve sometimes heard people describe peat smoke as meaty, but this (and maybe Ardbeg Corry) are the best examples of smoked and peppered protein notes coming out of a whiskey that Iā€™ve had to date.

Post Photo
like

Anyone hiring in tech sales for entry level or apprenticeships? Asking for a family member that needs a new job and to learn skills but is depressed with his current situation.

like

How flexible is Google in accommodating a different office than advertised? Ideally some European perspective, I know most of their team is not in the city I am currently residing and prefer to stay..

Can you suggest a good company that allows remote working for data science consultant ? I have a family abroad that I need to visit twice a year. My current company does not allow international remote work even tho Iā€™m fully remote. And I donā€™t get enough PTO to take 3-4 weeks off twice a year.

like

Any ETL/ EDW/Guidewire QA opening in your organization for 3+ years experience?


I'm having 3.9 years experience and serving notice period (15 days left) and looking for good roles to take up.

like

Have completed all quant og - now should I do them again? Exam in 3 days

like

I'm a staff1, I have noticed my work quality is lower than my peers. I really would like to improve. It's not that I'm dumb... I actually attended 2 prestigious schools and am an achiever. Just not in

like

Best hotel in fll or miami to stay for 2 days . Looking for ocean front suite rooms

like

Hi my firm recently laid me off with many because they had to close our project as they had no funds left.
Yesterday was my last day
I am a Network Service Operations Associate with 1 year of experience in customer service
Would like to get into a Project Management roles.
Any leads would be very useful.
Thanks!

like

This may be a bit of a stretch but has anyone had any luck using CodeceptJS to automate TV Apps such as Apple TV, Roku and Fire TV? More quality engineering than software but canā€™t find a good bowl to post it in elsewhere.

like

Is it worth it to get a professional certification like SHRM/PHR? Not many of my colleagues have one and itā€™s not a requirement for my role, but Iā€™m curious if itā€™s worth it in the long run

like

Hello Fishes, I'm in my NP and lwd is sep 19th. I gave technical round for Accenture last week. It's cleared and same is reflected in Accenture portal. Even HR called and discussed about salary and offer negotiations. I agreed to the amount that she said. After that she told that i will have to attend a final Managerial round.But still she hasn't arranged it. When asked about it today,she said that she is looking for a interview slot with panelist. Anyone know what's happening in this case? Acce

like

Can anyone recommend a good cosmetic Dentist in Chicago? Looking to get some veneers for a few top front teeth that keep chipping.

likehelpful

Iā€™m the only associate (mid-level) in a niche transactional group. My team is slammed. My paralegal is on leave. My partners keep delegating work to me but then I have no one to delegate anything to. Nearly everything for 2 big deals is on my list. Iā€™m so stressed that I feel like I canā€™t breathe most days. I need help but there isnā€™t any available. Iā€™m starting to feel like quitting is my only option. Any recommendations?

likesmart

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a previewā€¦
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what itā€™s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See whatā€™s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal