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Be yourself...and they will easily see why your boyfriend loves you.
Maybe whip up a tasty treat to pass after dinner!? Or some fall flowers for the table.
I like to buy something good from Trader Joe’s or Whole Foods if no time to cook or bake 😋
I’m from the south so I literally cannot go to someone’s house without bringing some food! I love to bake so if it was me (and I wasn’t flying), I’d bake a pie to bring.
Flowers are beautiful too, get a really nice bouquet and spruce it up by wrapping the stems nicely with tissue, burlap, fabric, etc - whatever is your style - and tie with beautiful ribbon. (See farmgirl flowers for some trendy ideas).
Otherwise be yourself! Offer to help with clearing dishes, setting tables, etc. But - I would never let a guest do work, so if the host tells you thanks but I’ve got it, respect that and just relax! Be sure to compliment the food, ask lots of questions, and just be the person your boyfriend loves and the family should love you too! Have fun!
Definitely offer to clean up after dinner - moms love the help!
Hopefully the men are in the kitchen cleaning up!
Ask a lot of questions, exude warmth, dote on your boyfriend (not over the top physical affection but like asking him if he needs something when you go to the kitchen) and I repeat ASK lots of questions, specifically about your boyfriend as a child etc. To his mother he is the most dazzling, wonderful man walking the planet and she will welcome the opportunity to talk about him with someone she thinks feels the same way. It’s not about proving your “good enough” in your own right, you’re obviously a catch and not some loser lost soul with nothing to offer and they will come across, it’s about showing them you appreciate their son.
If she’s the first time guest he should be getting her stuff from the kitchen - but great advice!
Take a gift, be excited to be there and let them see how much you care about their son. I had an ex whose parents never liked me and I realize in retrospect that they could tell I was lukewarm on their son. Now that I have kids, I can see it would bother me if my adult children were in a relationship with someone who didn’t see their worth.
Send a bouquet a day ahead and ask him what they’re into for an appropriate hostess gift. Have FUN
Ask him what they are into. Wine, chocolate, cheese, can always be appreciated. Sometimes bringing something that’s harder to find is always nice to share as well.
There’s always that trendy city food spot that all the suburbs folks know about - buy that. E.g. when I lived in DC and went to SO’s family’s for Thanksgiving, I brought Baked and Wired cupcakes. Huge hit! Do in NYC, Mike’s pastries in Boston, cronuts in Philly, etc.