Ladies, looking for inspiration. I haven't been on a date since 2019. I'm in my mid 30s and have let this take a back seat to career. Couple that with the pandemic and weight gain, I just don't have the energy to put myself out there on the apps. What's worked for you?

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Same as you Op

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Same situation, and seems like this entire year, guys have been ghosting on apps, or they end up having a major red flag

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Same 🤦🏾‍♀️

Not actively dating and don’t really have any desire or plans to get on the apps either. I would say it seems like lots of women I know or see in media are in the same position.

If you don’t want to use the apps (and I don’t blame you), then you need to put yourself out there IRL. Grab a friend and go to bars or lounges. Or go to a bar / restaurant bar solo.

Join networking events. Perhaps your university has an alumni association that is active in your city.

Find a nonprofit organization you care about where you can volunteer your time and that also has events (like a fundraising gala, volunteer meet & greets, etc).

What do you like to do for fun? If you like to be active, join a co-ed sports league. If you like art, become a museum member — you get access to opening nights and other exclusive events. You get the point…

SC2 all good points, however, as an introvert, I enjoy watching movies at home, exercising alone, small dinner parties, and eating at restaurants.

Not athletic and dislike large groups, so apps are great for meeting 1:1, but just seems like the quality of men has gone down since Covid.

Thanks SC2, I agree, your tips will help a lot of people! 👍

It seems harder to date for everyone post pandemic, and tough to get back into a pre-pandemic groove with everything, from working out, to eating right, to dating.

Hang out with friends who are party makers or can bring together a crowd. Three of my friends have found their SO via this route. Easier said than done, but mutual friends usually guarantee at least something in general to start the conversations.

Same VP, I am not good at making Friends, and when I do it seems like they already are a part of several friend groups

It depends on what you are looking for - are you ok with casual or looking for a man to marry and have kids with?

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