Ladies, question for you all. Back when we were traveling, I was going to an auto client in the Midwest. I wore a shorter black Theory dress (think above the knee) and realized it was shorter so threw a cardigan over it. Team lead (male principal) made me go home and change. As far as I could tell, no client complaints about my dress. Any thoughts on whether this was appropriate? I did go home and change fwiw.

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I don't think it's appropriate to comment on someone's attire in pretty much any setting. The theory/thoughts behind it are rooted in classism and sexism. We're continuing to see a shift towards more casual work attire and less care around these """pet peeves."""

Trying to let someone know they have a period stain and want to help them out? Sure.

Dictating that a woman is showing a couple inches about here knees and needs to change clothing? Partner needs to unpack why they find your knees so...distracting.

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It depends how short it was. If we're talking just above the knee then it's out of line, if we're talking mid thigh then it's honest feedback.

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I think your article echoes what I have been trying to say. Be direct and don't make it awkward.

In borderline situations sure, involve HR, but where it's cut and dried I have never felt the need. I've been managing people for a very long time and I'm confident in my ability to communicate with them around this.

Unless everyone was getting an unwanted show when you sit (think Britney Spears type of show, not just knees/ thigh) which is extremely inappropriate for the workplace, then it’s really no ones business

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Does your firm or the client have a strict dress code? Was the dress too casual, too short, too low cut or see-through? We’re you touring their production site where bare skin wasn’t allowed?

The way you described the dress makes it seem normal, so I’m surprised you were asked to leave and change. Next time this happens, ask why it’s breaking dress code and have him provide specific examples.

It’s normal to tell someone their dress is not up to code. These convos should either include HR or be very detailed in what is right vs wrong.

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Having worked at an auto company in the Midwest, shorts are not allowed in the office even for males. If we did wear dresses, we wore them on the longer side for this reason (grey area). So, with more context, this might have been an appropriate ask of the team lead (maybe not ideal delivery)

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If that’s the case, then the issue would be that she was wearing a dress, not a relatively “short” dress. I get what you’re saying about the auto industry — factory employees must adhere to certain dress guidelines to meet safety standards (closed toe shoes, pants, etc.). It would depend if the client carries similar dress standards to the office setting.

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