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Ladies recently started talking to someone new that I’m into, the topic of friends came up. I’m someone who’s struggled with making friends all my life, I went to schools with an intense competitive environment and any friends I made there were always looking to outdo each other so we all ended up drifting apart. I rarely try and make contact with them as I always end up feeling terrible after talking to any of them. Do you think this qualifies as a red flag for someone? I was being 100% honest🤷🏻‍♀️

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To answer your question, yeah I think this would be a red flag to many people. Not in the way you explained it, but in the impression it might give in the initial dating phases.

For various reasons, I don't have a ton of close friends. And most of them aren't nearby. So when the topic comes up about what do you like to do, I'm pretty general. Once I get to know someone a bit better it becomes a bit clearer that no I don't have a group of friends that I hang out with every weekend. No, I don't have a friend that I text almost everyday. But no, I'm not antisocial lol.

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Does this include college? What about friends from work? Childhood friends?

Childhood friends ended up going to college with me and my circle never expanded. I have made a few close friends at work.

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Are you sure that this wasn’t more than friendly completion? I am friends with alot of people I grew up with in school we all were competitive but were able to still maintain friendships throughout school and as we got older.

Seems that there may have been more to the story kinda like some misplaced jealousy here ? I guess it is also important to know why you feel bad after talking to them though too.

That may be true, I was the good student in school with the good grades but my professional life hasn’t been that stellar. My friends make it a point to bring that up every time which honestly doesn’t feel that great to me coz I know what I’m doing.

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Just curious - how introverted are you? I.e. whether or not you get energy from being with other people or if it exhausts you. I'm very introverted. I am so glad I've met people who were willing to make the initial extra effort to get to know me when I probably seemed disinterested AF. Haha. Not sure if you identify with that or not, but if you do, I hope you'll try putting in the effort to meet people half way! It's tough sometimes but worth it

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