Ladies- sad news here, but where is the best place to break up with someone? I’m long distance and only in town for one more night, but I need to pull the trigger. Is it better to go to their place? Have them come to yours? A neutral spot? Previous relationship was long distance, and I did it over FaceTime...I can’t imagine doing that in this scenario while I’m back at “home” at my moms house.

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A neutral spot. In public. Probably a Starbucks. Or you can go to their place, make it quick and then leave when you are done. Do not have them come to your place. Sorry to hear about your breakup ☹️

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Neutral spot in your situation. Make it private enough for some raw emotions to be okay but public enough to scream for help! The night I ended it with my ex husband was the night his verbal and emotional abuse crossed the line and turned physical. I know I shouldn't - but I blame myself for not foreseeing it and choosing a safer space. For not being a better friend to myself and planning ahead better.

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Depends entirely on the nature of your relationship (how long you’ve been together, why you’re ending it, etc). Either way, their place or neutral is generally best - easier control over when and how you exit, and you didn’t make them come to you just to get dumped. The balance of public/private is harder…I personally err towards private because everyone is allowed private space to work through their emotions, but only you know whether that’s safe or if the relationship has been long or serious enough to warrant that.

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Very good advice everyone- definitely leaning neutral location (his place is 30 min away) so could make it work more easily

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Go to a park and find a more private spot, but not out of sight. Good luck OP.

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