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I call everyone “girl” at some point or another, but I’d never considered the background or implications highlighted in the article. I’ll be dropping that from my vocabulary moving forward, thank you for sharing and I apologize for using the word without considering its history! ❤️

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So we tell men to stop saying things that we find offensive as women and it should just be accepted, but a woman of color is saying "hey this is offensive" and instead responses are "this is stupid" "you're oversensitive" "black or white in the south this is ok" "my girlfriends do it all the time".... Really?

Why can't we support other women instead of justifying why you should be able to do something? I'm not saying you have to agree, but maybe its something you keep in mind when you don't know a black woman and walk up to her, maybe its something you keep in mind when you decide to call your girlfriends "girl" ask about it. Being dismissive of someone's experience because you haven't experienced / dont agree about it is likely the same thing you complain about men doing when we try to stand up for our rights. Just some food for thought.

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Some of the responses here are disturbing. Specifically - The lack of empathy and the refusal to acknowledge other people’s pain is disturbing. Some of these women sound like men who dismiss information about gender bias and sexism.

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It is really uncomfortable when white women (and sometimes white men) suddenly try to black speak to try to connect. Like I’ve been marinating in whiteness my whole life. I understand you just fine when you don’t don some fake persona (that wouldn’t even be authentic coming from me).

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Yes, using Black Talk” on African Americans is 100% icky, unprofessional, and inappropriate

In addition, you should never refer to women as “girls” in a professional setting, ever. We are adults, not girls (regardless of how much younger the analyst may be compared to you).

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Agreed!

In the south womenwhite and black call each other “girl”. I think of it not different then some guy saying “hey man”.

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MC1, by your logic, I can use Bless Your Heart even if I know it’s offensive to you—and you shouldn’t be offended because I’ve never lived north of the Mason-Dixon Line.

To your original comparison—no, it’s not the same as a guy saying “hey man”, the actual equivalent based in the article is a white man calling a black, male coworker “Boy”.

Your “different viewpoint” is wrong and offensive. Feel free to continue your offensive behavior, blaming geography-/just understand that your are purposefully being unprofessional, rude, and potentially racist. And people will judge you and base their opinion of you based on your behavior.

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I haaate this. Or when someone repeats what you say and adds extra sass you KNOW wasn’t there.

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so.. as a white woman, if i call my (white) female friends/very close female coworkers ‘girl’ is that also problematic or no?

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@D1 Did you read the article? What did the article say about white women?

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