Ladies, what would you do if you find out your boyfriend/husband has attempted to cheat on you? (Hypothetical question)

Someone you love. How extreme would you go?

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Huge ick. Dude tried to cheat and failed? damn he has no game?? Hmm

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Sis right??? The shame of that would drive us apart and it'd be a divorce for me

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Get even. An attempt at cheating for an attempt at cheating

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Do not do this

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Leave, no point staying in a unhappy situation or with someone who doesn’t respect me enough to tell me they want out. There are many things I can shoulder and work through, infidelity is not one of them.

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I would take a Louisville slugger to both headlights 🫡

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SLASH A HOLE IN ALL FOUR TIRES

Try to understand why did he cheat? Is it because of physical or emotional reasons or just morally not strong? See if his explanation makes sense to you. Life is long and often people around you will make stupid decisions. Before you permanently kick them out, atleast try to understand why. Maybe its something you both can work on as a couple? I just think its easier to break relationships then building a sustainable one as it takes lot of effort.
Btw not saying at all that you should forgive and stay with him or her. Just try to understand why and then make your decision.

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I would, no kidding, give them 48 hours to get out of my house, and work on moving or emigrating as far away as possible.

Infidelity ruined my parents marriage and I have zero tolerance for it where it’s not consensual (open marriage or similar)

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I would get them out immediately. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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A lot easier to give up and not trust easily than doing the opposite.

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Sure, but does easy = wrong? “Taking the easy way out” sometimes means taking the right and often safest way out with the least damage and scar tissue

Perosnal thoughts: I feel that if someone is cheating on you then you've already lost "that" place in their heart which you once had. Better forget, forgive or not completely up to your nature, and move on completely. There's no point crying over a person who could not be loyal to you.

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I'd do counseling and anything possible to pull it back together. I'd take extreme ownership in any areas that were my fault and begin the heeling process.

I was super serious about marriage being for life. I'd be beyond devastated but I'm sure we could work through it over time.

However - I think the chances of this happening are slim to none....

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I would be heartbroken. But I am a rather unforgiving person who does not trust people easily. So I would have to dump him for my own sanity. Obviously a marriage would make that much more difficult, and I’m not married so I don’t really have the perspective for that.

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Same here. I’d really want to work past it, but I’m not wired to trust others easily. It wouldn’t be fair to either myself or my partner to bear the aftermath of heartbreak and paranoia

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What do you mean by attempt to cheat?

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Depends on the "level" of cheating, how remorseful they are, etc. Did they just give someone their number, were they texting/calling someone regularly, etc. If it's something they want to work on, then let's work on it, but if not, then move on.

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Marry a man not a boy then you’ll never have to worry about cheating.

Unless it’s a really desirable man and he doesn’t get his needs taken care of at home.

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