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Ladies who also abide by the “expecting better” philosophy that a glass of wine every once in a while is totally fine during pregnancy… I am going to a work women’s happy hour tomorrow. Yay or nay on using my weekly glass of wine? (I am clearly pregnant and people know I am pregnant). I kind of want to but I also fear the judgement and having to explain myself…

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Because opinions are so charged on this topic AND it is a work function where those opinions might impact your actual life, I would save my glass for a different time.

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Also… Not the same thing, but I once saw a pregnant woman in Europe smoking and the involuntary look of disgust I shot her probably would have turned her to stone if she had seen and I still think about it 3 years later. If someone at work has the same perception of drinking while pregnant as I do of smoking… I wouldn’t want that kind of heat.

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I would not. I think people would be shocked / possibly judge.

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If you can ignore the judgement of others, then more power to you! Personally the only people I would have a sip of wine in front of while pregnant would be my best friend and husband and in a private setting like our house.

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I’m not going to lie, if I saw a pregnant stranger drinking at an event I’d probably think “man if she drinks in public, imagine what she does behind closed doors.” But maybe you’re the one to start changing that?! But I am also super conservative when it comes to drinking during pregnancy, despite how much I loved Expecting Better. After I had a miscarriage, I felt no risk was worth it. Even though my rational mind knew a drink here or there wouldn’t do any damage.

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I would! You do you. My only concern would be the quality of the wine at the event…I would not waste my glass on something that isn’t worth it ;)

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My thoughts exactly - I would definitely not “waste” it on house wine at a restaurant... I was at a dinner recently at a very senior colleague’s house and I had a tiny glass of wine (more like 3 sips) of the $400 bottle that he had opened, and had no shame or regret about that!

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The mom shaming/judging will only continue after baby is born. If I were you, I’d do what you want and ignore the haters. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I don’t drink in public haha people are hella judgmental in the US. I had a small glass at dinner once AFTER I gave birth and the waitress asked me “is that really wise given your condition” 🙈🙈🙈

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Yikes! That’s not cool.

I had the occasional drink and if anyone looked at me sideways they got to hear how much I love Emily Oster for giving real data for rational choices. I enjoy educating people on that particular topic.

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I drank at work dinners through both my pregnancies. Only one glass, with dinner, and only when the wine was worth it to earlier comments. Honestly, I also discovered that my taste buds had changed and so only the expensive stuff tasted good any way 😂 I never got a single comment or shade. Quite frankly, most restaurants are pretty dim and it’s actually really hard for people to tell you’ve popped while sitting down. I’d say 90% of the time servers and other diners didn’t know I was pregnant unless they saw me on my various trips to the bathroom.

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Same. No biggy.

I hate this so much, but I wouldn’t. People are still way too judgy about this, and truth be told, there is nothing wrong with a single glass of wine, especially after first tri (by the time you’re showing). It’s not worth the crap you’d put up with IMO, and I’d just have it at home.

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I personally don't care, but I agree with the overall sentiment posted here. My go to drink was cranberry and club. The seltzer made me feel fancy!

I personally did not and would not. My old senior manager however did have the occasional beer at happy hour while noticeably pregnant, and I didn’t see any negative judgment.

Depends on natire if crowd. I was never concerned having my one glass in public. But. If your job relies on you being strategic and showing good judgment…need to read the room before doing it. One friend drank non alcoholic beer even when not pregnant because she loved it (no. I can’t imagine that either but…). She said she would generally not drink it in public when Pregnant told because she generally was made to feel uncomfortable by stares. People don’t necessarily get facts but they often judge. If in doubt have sparkling waters in a wine glass. That’s my go to when not drinking. Has same look at feel (ish) of the social aspects of having a glass of wine.

Shirley temple please. I had a preg coworker drink near me and it made me uncomfortable. Then she asked me to get her another glass of wine at an event and I refused. I’m also the person who won’t come out of Park in my rental car until everyone is buckled up. Safety first. Babies are fragile.

Instead of being uncomfortable because of what someone else is drinking, do some research. There is no harm to baby from an occasional glass of wine. Pretty ballsy of you to try snd tell someone else what they can and cannot drink….especially when it’s contrary to science 🤷🏼‍♀️

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