Ladies with kids, how do you balance work and family?

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Please ask this question to men too. They have both work and families as well.

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My husband and I have routines- I try to only be away three nights a week, I call at the same time each night and read books over FaceTime: I also try to outsource as much as possible- eg. we hired a housekeeper to come every other week.

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Women traditionally end up doing more with the kids and around the house. Not in all cases but in many.

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Also S&1 I find that we women ruminate about this way more then men do. I told myself to shut up about it and just do it. It's hard to shut out all the haters who think I should be at home with my kids full time, but I'm so much happier working. I'm good at my job and my kids have a better parent because of it.

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Maybe one of you should quit? Most people don't have that option, but people in this group usually do. My wife is a full time mom, but if she got a better job than me I would quit that same day bc I don't want someone else raising my kids.

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My husband is awesome. However he does not have lot of flexibility at work since it is expected by his boss and colleagues that women take care of home/kids. As a result it is stressful for both of us. Hence asking for tips to manage it better.

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I've always worked and my husband stayed home for about 6 months. It was great and he did more around the house - I actually got to relax when I was home. When we are both working though, most of it falls to me. He takes very little on at his job. Same issue - he works with mostly women (none have kids) and his co-workers expect his wife to handle things at home.

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Most of the people on my team also have young children and need flexibility because we work with offshore teams. We are still understaffed and overworked but I'm trying to encourage everyone on my team to do the same approach as me and we will push back on deadlines as much as we can.

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Good question.

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Well 1- that makes me 😡 for your husband but if neither of you can do it you need family or to pay someone else... Long term that will wear on you. If you can do Thursday - Sunday he needs to pick up Monday-Thursday. Somebody has to be primary on any given day of the week.

@D2 I'd be very impressed if you actually did that... Out of interest has the situation between you and your wife been reversed - i.e. She worked and you stayed at home with the kids?

No. I've always worked. She never has.

Do you work on weekends? If not, how do you manage teams who like to work on weekends vs Friday's and partners who over promise?

So I'm actually just starting something. For the past month I have been limiting my nights. I'll stay really late to catch up 1-2 nights a week. I'm also only giving one day of my weekend up a month. I've spent the past couple years giving so much of myself to work and my clients, I can't do it to that extent anymore. I'm constantly reviewing priority with my client and trying to set clear expectations. Luckily I have a lot of control over what the team commits to and I have a good relationship with my client.

We have an au pair. Really helpful because hours are more flexible than a traditional daycare. Cost effective compared to day care if you have two or more kids.

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