Language matters: a manager gave me more responsibility than a male analyst but referred to my project management duties as “taking notes” and referred to his work as “driving the deliverable”

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Seriously? What's wrong with that kind of people

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I actually quit a job in industry when new management that was old school af came in and told me to stay quiet and take notes on a meeting I used to play a large role in. They also tried to spin it like they were giving me an important role. And when I gave notice and they asked what they could do to have me stay, my reply was “nothing”.. and damn that felt good. I quit without another job lined up, but quickly found something that more than doubled my prior salary. Sorry- anecdotal, but just wanted to share. F the patriarchy!!! 💪🏽

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Sometimes I forget that this is our realtor as women. I've been partially blissfully ignorant (not seeing things for what they are) and partly luckily sheltered (not experiencing it)

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I am always driving the deliverable.

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Upward feedback time!!!!!

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Beware it’s not a manifestation of the patriarchy, but of the power hierarchy. I have had supposedly feminist activist women in power treat me with the same condescension, even when I had more experience and technical smarts than them! Men usually don’t play petty mind games as much, nor do they watch the voice and tone and subtle words to cut you down as much.

I think such women think you are worth their feminist goodwill only if use your energy to stand your ground, and tilt at the windmills. My focus is on moving the work deliverables forward and meeting client expectations, not in taking ideological stances at work.

But who knows what makes these ladies scheme and strategize? Tired of the whole lot.

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Wow. Was this in a project review?

Thanks for the advice! Definitely will work in 1:1s to change the narrative. Felt frustrated and embarrassed in the moment and wanted to get it off my chest.

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Wow...

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