Last night, we were watching the election with family and my husband could not stop being on his phone. I had a couple drinks and we got into a fight after our family left on how he invited them over and then barely looked up from his phone. He was texting his friends and other family. I just got really annoyed and we’ve increasingly been getting into fights when we drink. Was this argument petty of me? Should I probably stop drinking...

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Ya, I was on my phone all night too. I’d say give him a break on last night, unless this is a pattern, in which case, talk to him.

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Honestly, I was on my phone a lot last night too looking at the results from different news sources, so I can’t really blame him too much for that.

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I mean normally him being on his phone all night with guests over would be extremely rude. Last night was not a normal night. We were all glued to our phones and I think it's unreasonable for you to expect otherwise of him. I know my bf couldn't have pulled me away last night. I was just not physically capable of it.

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Yes it’s petty. Everyone was trying to keep up with the news, check in with friends/loved ones. I think he gets a pass on an election in a global pandemic

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My husband and i keep each other in check about our phone usage. I would also be upset if he were on his phone all night, especially with guests over. We remind esch other nicely that we have been on our phones too much and need to be more present and be both make the effort to listen to the other. We have even had phone/tech free weekends which have been LOVELY.

If youve been getting into more and more fights, i think you need to take the time to think about why. Whats been bothering you? What do you need to woek on for esch other? And if drinking lets the fights out more, yes slowing down on drinking can help but you will need to also get out your discussions while sober.

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If drinking is causing any sort of toxic behavior to happen more regularly, then that's normally a good indicator you should cut back or stop

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Yea last night was an exception I’ve been glued to my phone, laptop, and tv for 18 hrs. Obviously you are picking up on a trend related to drinking and maybe excessive phone use, but I wouldn’t use last night as the baseline. 

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You seem to be irritated with each other and picking up petty fights when drunk. Maybe try to address that

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Obviously I cant tell your entire relationship just from what you posted but I remember fighting more with my once SO more while drunk and it was because I was irritated with him normally but could keep my mouth shut while sober.

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I would have been very annoyed as well, especially if he invited them and then was on his phone all night.

That said, make sure not to let election anxiety trickle into the situation, or annoyance about other things. Try to reflect as much as possible on why it was so frustrating, and then see if that specific reason is a trend or a one off

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Petty - yes.
Should you stop drinking - if you feel that your relationship would be better off without then maybe.

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No fights were real last night. It's been a stressful 24 hours

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