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Last week I was given amazing news that I was pregnant. Today, after my repeat blood work results, I was told my HCG levels aren’t rising adequately. I am crying in the bathroom stall at work.

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Give yourself permission to take a "me day" and go do something today that makes you feel better. The pregnancy journey is long and hard at time but re-center yourself to know that you have to keep your head up and keep going because it's worth it.

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I am so sorry to hear. Please take care of yourself. Do what you need to do, work will take care of itself and there are more important things.

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I’m so sorry. 😥 Definitely give yourself a break and get out of there for today. I’ve been in a similar situation and tried to stay at work through it...it’s just not worth it. Take the time you need.

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Thank you for all your kind words. It’s been a roller coaster for 2 weeks of blood tests and ultra sounds to check if it’s a ectopic pregnancy. I ended up spotting Friday and full fledge bleeding started Saturday. It’s been rough and painful. TMI, but the clots are huge and thick and makes and movement uncomfortable. But here I am, back at work. Unfortunately I don’t feel I can open up to anyone at work or feel I have any support from my team. I feel it will just be on the surface so I have avoided sharing it with anyone here 😔

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Agree with Booz. Go do something you enjoy. Work will still be there. If it's helpful and your spouse is nearby, have them join as well.

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I’m so sorry. Take time to grieve. I didn’t and I should have.

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Been there too. I just fucking sucks (sorry, no two ways about it). Echo the above comments. Go take time for you. Try to do things you like, eat things you like, drink all the wine. Remember you’re not alone and that time to grieve is important

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Keep the faith- life always has a way to set things right

So sorry to hear that OP. I went through that twice before I had my baby. It is very difficult, hope you are taking time to grieve and take care of yourself.

💔 I’m so sorry

I’m so sorry. Can you go home? Take the time. Say you have food poisoning. Just leave.

I’m so sorry - just get out, look after yourself. Feel free to post if you want to chat. I’ve also been there before.

Hoping you were able to take off today. I've been there as well. You are not alone. Take care of yourself and take time to be sad. I powered through with work, but the grief crept up later on. Hang in there.

So sorry to hear this. Been there too. It’s so hard but take the time to grieve. Pushing it away makes it come back stronger in my experience. Be kind to yourself.

I’m sorry to hear that ☹️. Same thing happened to me last October. It’ll be okay, sometimes it’s not the right time for that little soul to come into the world. If it gives you any hope, I became pregnant a 1.5 months after my miscarriage. Your body becomes more “ready” after it happens. Take care and take the day off if you need to.

I’m so sorry, I’m wondering how you feel today. Hopefully you’ve got a little bit more clarity and see the hope in trying again soon. What we do is hard on our bodies and many of us have gone through it unfortunately. Please find someone to confide in, even at work

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