Last year I set up a home gym with a weight rack, free weights bike, bench, tv, and fan in our garage for my husband as a birthday gift since he couldn’t hit the gym and was getting depressed about it. He’s worked out maybe 5 times with it. Meanwhile I’ve been using it 5 days a week. I can tell he’s in a funk emotionally due to lack of movement and routine. How do I gently encourage him to work out or move more without making it seem like I’m doing it for the wrong reasons?

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Ask him to workout w you

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Have you tried suggesting you two work out together as a fun couples activity?

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Honestly, my SO did this for me when I was kind of down in the dumps. I would complain about being unfit but wouldn’t workout, so he suggested that we could go to the gym together and make it fun. It was a nice way of him helping me out without being overly pushy to where it made me feel bad. It definitely can take a little schedule maneuvering (I was a morning work-outer and he was evening), so we compromised on after work before dinner. All he probably needs is just a few days or weeks to get back into the groove. For me getting started again was the hardest, and then once it kicked off I was motivated to be healthier again :)

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You’re a good partner. Love the support you’re giving him!

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Get a trainer to come over to your home gym. Trust me. This will work. Give it three months of continual effort. It takes a minimum if 3 months to inculcate a new habit.

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Another thing to do would be take measurements and videos. Benchmarking is key. We do measurements at the beginning of each month. Waist, hip, body fat, BMI. You cannot manage what you cannot measure.

For many people, part of going to the gym is the act of going to the gym. Getting out, feeling productive, etc. home gyms don’t allow that.

Maybe recommend you take a 30 minute walk together — get outside, get moving, etc. and you can roll that into your workout and then it feels more like the “get out of your house” routine most people have with the gym.

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If he is in a funk exercise may help but is he having other unresolved issues lurking over?

For me, it took me a long time to understand and admit that I was going through depression. Physical health is important but mental health may be a big hurdle. Just a thought.

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Love this. He started Prozac and Wellbutrin like 6 months ago and recently was diagnosed with ADD. They changed his medication and he’s much more motivated at work. Still hasn’t gotten his groove back with the at home stuff, but I am thrilled he’s loving his work again

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Start going for walks together, 20 min early morning, 20 min after dinner. Then try a couple joint workouts. Invite him in by asking for his help to spot you or help with form checks. Then maybe a couple times later challenge him to do your workout with you (in a fun way)

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Love this suggestion. I asked him if he wanted to do a walk with our dogs tomorrow morning before I make him his favorite brunch and he seemed so receptive. Starting slow but this is great

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We did a 4 hour leisurely bike ride. That’s huge for him. He’s so happy

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Having the same issue with my girlfriend. Following.

Buy a couple PT sessions so he can get a grip on some routines he can keep up with, without having to think too much about it.

Second walks. My partner has struggled hard with this, when she needs support I find a really great place to walk to (coffee shop, bakery, or visual landmark). I then don't shut up about how great it is. She eventually wanders there (we don't like walking together) and her rut is disturbed.

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