Late bloomer on the dating/relationship scene, didn’t start to date seriously till late 20s. Generally speaking , how does one know if they are a handsome man? I’m a BM in my early 30s, 6’3”, always well dressed/groomed and articulate/cultured; I oftentimes gets stares from strangers on the street, and I genuinely wonder if they’re afraid of me, find me handsome, or maybe a weird combination of both.

Has anyone else had this experience? What are some signs that a man is handsome?

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I don’t know if this is a compliment or not, but I would assume that a lot of people stare not because they find you handsome or scary, but because you simply stand out.
You look non traditional, short hair, big beard, non conventional clothing (stripy suit with a handkerchief, pins, and colourful shirt under or a big chain around your neck, jewellery). Now as for dating, you are likely to attract girls who are into more non-conventional, funky types, vs more mainstream attractive guys.

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This is actually helpful insight, thank you.

I’m definitely “non-conventional” when it comes to my personal style. It took me 10+ years to figure out what looks good on me and what doesn’t. I do get a good deal of compliments on my outfits.

And yes, I’d also agree that that appearance does tend to attract more artist/designer/creative-types.

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Post a photo of yourself and we will give you our honest opinions.

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Not my style personally but I’d still hit 🙃

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Fellow late bloomer here. Haven’t ever dated seriously or been in a romantic relationship. In my mid-20s now.

If I may point out, handsomeness/good looks is not a great predictor that you will find love. It IS a great predictor though of how many people will be attracted to you. But attraction is just that: a fleeting sensation that we experience in the presence of another body. Sometimes, attractive people struggle to find love more than average people. Why? The paradox of choice. With so many options, it’s hard to zero in on one. Plus, it’s hard to figure out whether they like you for you or for your physical attractiveness or something else. Beautiful women and rich men face this problem all the time. Sometimes, it’s the average ones who truly find lasting and fulfilling love.

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There is someone for everyone! You could be the most average of average and find someone or the most unique of unique and find someone. More than how you look it’s about confidence and knowing what you want in the other person. Though to that end - if you want someone that is strictly white bread and bologna then you may need to tone down your style, but if you want to find someone that’s more of an adventurous and stylish person then you’re looking great!
Good luck!

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I feel like more attractive ppl get looked at more, and strangers (work, grocery store, gas station, whatever) get talked to more. Oh, and if someone at the bar gives you the time of day instead of turning around and be like “anyways

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I know someone is handsome to me when I can’t hold a conversation with them 😂. Based on the pics you sent I would say some people may look at you cause of your style. I know I tend to start to stare when I see someone dressed nicely or uniquely. It’s not to judge I’m just processing the outfit and considering the textiles and shape. I also like to sew and fabrics so I am interested in the construction of clothes. So yeah 🤷🏻‍♀️

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