Leaving my job next week. Fell hard for a guy I work with and realized today I won’t be seeing him or talking to him before I move on. He doesn’t know how I feel and it’s obvious he doesn’t feel the

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Select a personal goal and throw all of yourself in achieving that goal. Sometimes when we fixate on other people (particularly those that don’t return our affection) ... it is indicative that some inner work is needed. Pick up a new hobby where you will meet other men. I am sure you are amazing and will find someone who is right for you and 100% into you!

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Time time time - will heals everything. I bet two months from now, in your new job, you won’t even think about him once a week.

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I am so hoping that this is the case. Time and distance hopefully makes the feels go away.

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Gonna seem harsh, but you likely fell hard for the wrong reasons. Remember that infatuation is a thing. If that was real you’ll keep in touch in a meaningful way, but doesn’t sound (limited from why you wrote) like you had a crush on your work husband

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Totally have been there! Very consulty to say, but take a moment to step back and realign your work vs life. If you’re anything like me, I felt that way bc I wasn’t dating at that point in time.

Same. Feeling super sad today. How do you move on?

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He doesn’t know? So, do you just admire him from afar or are you actually involved??

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We work together so we interact. He just doesn’t know I’ve developed feelings

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OP you could always let him know how you feel about him, even if you expect nothing. Most people are flattered if they’re told they are/were admired in this way.

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Ok ok. We can switch gears. Maybe a very short note like “I wish we could have had the chance to know one another outside of work, I don’t know when and if this card will ever find you- but should you ever want to connect here is my number xxx-xxx-xxx”. Or something to that effect. Let me know if you do, I think leaving card is actually a good idea. There would be something about expressing your interest knowing he may or may never see this card. It would be undefined and without expectation. Unless he’s a complete linear thinking dud, he’ll have to appreciate something like that.

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I wouldn’t be saying this if we weren’t living out the end of times, but pen him a beautiful love letter and see what happens. You’re going away to a new job, and with this quarantine who knows if you’ll ever see him again if he doesn’t respond. I think it could be romantic af

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