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@OP I suggest waiting until the birth of your child (congrats btw!) and reassessing - I suspect you’ll have quite a few more responsibilities on your plate and a desire that you don’t yet have to spend as much time as possible with your newborn
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These are great responses, thanks! Yea - in transparency, i turned down a lateral consulting offer from a firm I’d always wanted to work at, for the tech role I’m at now.
I guess I’ve been conflicted about it since then. Good to know that these things arent absolutes and sometimes people do go back later.
My 2 cents - rarely I have seen people working in a job where they are highly satisfied. There is always a struggle between role, money, and wlb. You got 2 sorted out of 3 which is rare IMO. However since it is human nature to crave for the things that we don’t have, You can try switching to another company, however be prepared to sacrifice something else though. If you get all three somewhere, do keep us posted :). Good luck!
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WLB is even worse at a startup though
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☝️that way, once the kid arrives, if it's too much, you can scale it back.
I've got a 5 mos old, and I gotta say, the way a baby consumes your time and attention is unreal. Maybe that's not everyone's experience, but certainly has been for my wife and I.
I feel you OP. I moved ~3 months ago and my new role is a big step down in scope and responsibilities. Much better WLB though.. I have a young kid at home so I really appreciate the WLB - now I just need to make peace with my role :)
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I'm having the exact same experience. Way better WLB and pay but kind of bored with my job
I try to be greatful for what i have. I was seriously unhappy by the time i left consulting so a bit bored at work is a big step up
Pipe dream. Life requires trade offs.
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You’ll never be truly satisfied. Accept it.
Accepted? Now reassess.
Having a child lit a fire in me. My wife decided to stay home, which certainly helped me from a time perspective. But realizing I was now financially responsible for an entire family gave me a lot of motivation. I did a lot of studying/learning at night after everyone was asleep. But it was much nicer having that as an option rather than having a super demanding job at the time. Once my child got past the newborn stage and my family settled into a rhythm, I went out and got a new gig. I would suggest figuring out what you ultimately want to do and then using whatever “downtime” you have in your kid’s first 6 mos - 1 year and studying, learning, etc. And don’t forget to spend some time with your family! You will never get that time back. Then once you feel comfortable taking on a bigger load, go out and get that job you really want, I’d that is ultimately what you decide. At least you will be well prepared for it and won’t have to make major time sacrifices during your child’s first year.
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Thanks this was helpful! Yea our current plan is for wife to continue working. If she stayed home then I’d be tempted to try to go do MBB or something, but i also just assume i won’t wanna be away from family so much and working 80 hour weeks.
Makes sense on everything else - will aim to reassess after the first 6 months to 1 year after our baby is born. I’m still figuring out where i ultimately want to land i guess. Did you figure it out / is that Deloitte? Or are you somewhere else now?
Haha I had the same feeling. I left a very chill wlb job feeling unfulfilled that was kind of a dead end (O&G) to come work at mck. I just had a baby and the first 6 months are great to be there for I agree 100%. The firms been okay about letting me work remote or local so far but I assume it’ll change soon for my own growth. The job for me is a pit stop (2-3 year) to move to another state and a new industry so it’s really all about what you want out of life.
Ps I talked to a lot of parents before I made the decision and the consensus I got was if you’re going to do it, it’s better to partially be there for the first two years after a routine is established and if you can afford help rather than when they’re 3-5 because they’re super fun.
I agree with all the responses about waiting until after your child is born to make a decision. Until you have a kid, it’s impossible to understand how much different your life is about to be.
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Thanks all! Yea, i hear everyone loud and clear about waiting and reassessing when my child is born. Totally makes sense that my priorities will change and I’ll be thankful for the WLB.
When i took this job, i actually chose it over a more prestigious consulting offer that i had wanted and for sure would have taken at other times in my life.
I think I’m coming to terms with the idea that some of these things just aren’t the right time anymore. I had also thought i might eventually learn to code and do some kind of online CS masters, but again adding 15-20 hours per week just seems awfully dicey now.
How do people in general continue to achieve and move their careers forward while raising newborns? Or is that something to just sort of put on the back burner for a while?