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I think it needs to be said how culture has effected religion. While we try to unwind religion from culture...it's near impossible. Couple things that personally bother me:
1) log Kya khenge (what will people say) mentality.
2) Religious toxicity. Our path to the Devine is a very personal. Don't judge someone because they're still on it.
3) Not having questioned your faith.
4) A lot of the patriarchy (& I'm a guy).
5) where you are on the spectrum religiousity. Just because someone does xyz, does NOT mean they're a bad person. Look past the imperfections and work as a team.
6) dismissing mental health.
/End soapbox
Rising Star
Love this.
Judging in terms of our interpretation of Islam. For example, I often argue why we judge a Muslim on their clothes. It is not easy being pious in today's time, and we should at least get to know each other before distancing ourselves.
Chief
Comparing religiosity!
Pro
💯💯💯
Muslims that think women were created from a rib of a man and man is a boss in the family etc🙈
Rising Star
I guess you’re right, that’s who I often meet
Rising Star
Qualities that I have seen that particularly bother me and have unfortunately developed into prejudices against my people include:
1. a sense of entitlement - as if the world isn’t good enough for you and should be given to you/frequently being stuck in a stasis because you aren’t willing to work for things and are used to parents hiding your failures and shortcomings (particularly common amongst the men in our community)
2. Lack of self sufficiency - with easy access to information and resources (therapy and self help), there is no reason one should not know how to cook, be financially literate, and emotionally stable
3. Lack of self awareness (inability to listen, comparing traumas, lack of empathy, constant attempt to one up others, etc.
4. Labeling others especially people from your own community as a monolith and putting them into a box
Rising Star
Too judgy/conservative or part of the “aunty gossip gupshap squad”.
Pro
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Enthusiast
Appearances…even wearing the “wrong” shade of lipstick will have other women giving you side eye 👀
Omgsh this is too real.
I think for me it's the hypocrisy in the "ideal partner" philosophy and then how men actually choose their women
Pro
Yea probably haha - I like to
Play the feminist card 😎
Rising Star
I don’t like Muslims who are in a state of perpetual entitlement and victimhood at the same time while living in a mansion in the suburbs (or the equivalent). I also don’t like the masjid crowd, as much as I would love to have religious friends. They’re too judgy and shallow in their understanding of Islam.
Also, if a Muslim I don’t know approaches me and smiles, I wonder what they want from me. I will also likely never do business with another Muslim.
Too many to list lol
Chief
Haha!
Pro
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@IBM hell yeah girl, I'd be your friend! That doesn't define you!
Coming from a desi girl, I have a hard time relating to other Muslim girls tbh, they seem fake and not easy going. Especially growing up, all they seemed to do was bitch about each other and then 5 seconds later “Aww I love you girl”
I can relate to the guys just fine.