Life feels like it’s falling apart, might get counseled out only a year into this job, physical and mental health has suffered, my spouse has been having mental health challenges, don’t have many friends, and overall life is feeling impossible. I think about how much life is ahead of me and I think to myself, “wow that’s too much.” I know there’s nothing anyone here can do to help. Just needed to get it out to a group of strangers. Hope you all figure life out and find happiness

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<3 I have had similar feelings many times - once I realized there is no "figuring it out" and all we have are the little day-to-day fleeting moments of wonder/bliss/ok-ness, it made the journey a little easier (your mileage may vary); sending you meaningless/meaningful mental hugs across the vastness of the internet

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Sometimes life has to fall apart to before it can fall into place. Give it time.

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At least you have a spouse?

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