Long distance “situationship” ended over the weekend. We had been talking for 2 years and we made it a point to see each other at least one/twice a month. He admitted that he is not prepared (cont.)

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Silver lining - if after 2 years he’s not ready to be emotionally available, he likely won’t ever be - you dodged a bullet...though right now it feels the opposite

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It sounds like he was leading you on if this has been a 2 year thing? It sucks. Long distance is hard. And our jobs pretty much mean we are always in a long distance relationship, even if you date someone in your city

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@everyone - thanks it means a lot. Hoping ill get past it quicklu

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😢 sorry to hear

(Cont.) to have ever been in something this deep before and that he is not the type of person to be there emotionally for another person. Disappointed and strugggling to make it thru the days

Can feel your pain. 💔 Sorry to hear OP. You can’t change anyone, so do your best to let the situation be. People can only meet you where they are.

Give yourself time and focus on taking care of yourself. 🙏🏼

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