Long term ex gf dumped me 4 months ago and I thought I was healed, but it suddenly hit me again today. This was my first relationship and through self reflection, I’ve realized there were mistakes on both sides. I feel like it would work out between us if we tried again, but she never reached out again and I still miss her I guess…

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Statistically, it takes about a quarter to a third of the time you were together to recover.

You probably got a ways to go. Take a road trip, see some National Parks and/or stars with zero light pollution, center yourself, and, remember, there’s no shame in crying.


Go to the house of gains, do a tren cycle. Then get on tinder and slay


Step 1, OP, pump iron
Step 2, get your pilots license.
Step 3, land a woman


I agree the dumper should make the first move


I’ve been in no contact, blocked her from all social media because I was really hurt. But she can always text me…

If you were a woman we would be telling you to move on instead of go after her. Double standards much


Sorry you’re feeling this way, OP. From your replies, it sounds like she’s not someone who holds herself accountable in relationships since you said she never apologized for anything. You definitely deserve someone who tries to get it right for you and does so most of the time. Write a letter to her sharing all the things you want to say to her, and then burn the letter.


Hit the gym

Already do, been lifting for 7+ years. Doesn’t help anymore because I’m a regular

Why can’t you reach out if you feel this way?

Definitely do not reach out


Don’t do it. You just miss the companionship.

Ohh I was confused. Makes more sense now. It’s only been 4 months for me. I don’t see her ever coming back because she’s so stubborn 😞

Are you meeting and dating other women?

Time to start meeting in person. Via the apps. And going out with friends and meeting other people IRL.

You’re living in the past. And the present is passing you by


Reach out to her. Apologize for your side of wrong. Meet her and talk!!!! Take it from there

I’ll be your accountability buddy. I just broke off a relationship. Unfortunately at this point he was my only support system/close friend.


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