|
Depression/Anxiety Talk

Looking for advice... I’ve always had positive performance reviews, but my own insecurities have me convinced that I am about to get fired and am not doing a good job.

like
Arrow Icon
Posting as :
works at

I wish I had words of wisdom but want to say that I feel the same way!! Although the reviews I get are okay not stellar...I haven’t found a solution that works yet for anxiety/imposter syndrome but have heard from several people that it takes 6 months-1 year (or more) to get over. In the meantime, I am seriously considering CBD products for anxiety and working out helps

like
Arrow Icon

Learn to accept imperfection. An impossible task. Like trying to answer in a haiku.

like
Arrow Icon

Exercise and decreased use of alcohol have helped. Also, having the realization that luck is a component of positive outcomes and bad luck drives negative outcomes (i.e., you don’t dictate outcomes as much as you think) is calming. All you can control is your focus and intentions, and the rest is out of your control.

like
Arrow Icon

Logically, I know this is stupid. My client had extended me after rolling off others. They’ve openly praised my work in front of the partner and other client senior managers. But I cannot shake this fear that I’m screwing up and feeling that I’m not doing a good job. This is causing my anxiety to really flare up...

like
Arrow Icon

Thanks 🐠. One thing I think now... Am I insecure and that is triggering anxiety or is my anxiety feeding my insecurity...

like
Arrow Icon

I wouldn’t even worry about which one does which. What is really helpful in these cases is to think “what’s the worst that can happen?" You get fired... so what? Your job doesn’t define you. Putting that in your head helps you face your fears!

like
Arrow Icon

I would say the former. Anxiety doesn't exist in a vacuum. Threat or a perceived threat precedes it and causes it. In your case, it looks like it's the insecurity which you are associating with some threat is causing the anxiety.

Arrow Icon

Thanks. That makes a load of sense!

Arrow Icon

I feel the exact way... for a second I thought I wrote this post. I think this is also due to us being people pleaser. For me, I feel I will disappoint people if it is not perfect

Arrow Icon

Maybe Neil was complimenting others and not actually going through an imposter syndrome moment...?

Arrow Icon

Related Posts

People who were around during the 08/09 layoffs - was severance given out?

like
Arrow Icon

Has anyone been able to negotiate anything extra or terms when being laid off?

like
Arrow Icon

Any body have to take a month off work to go to rehab then return? With a threat that most likely your current account will be handled by someone else and suffering lack of confidence maybe even fired

Arrow Icon

Could people share some “I got laid off and it turned out to be great” stories? Granted I’m sure none of those stories involve being laid off in a global pandemic like I just was.

like
Arrow Icon

Is it stupid to take a new job right now? It would stay within my company for a brand that’s doing well, but still, if layoffs happen again I am the newest to the team..

like
Arrow Icon

fellow fishes who is looking to exit but is unsure of or are not getting good ops - hang in there. If I can do it you can too. Was laid off exactly a month back and now I am in local gig (contd)

likeuplifting
Arrow Icon

I am almost done with my first trimester and I’m scared to announce that I am pregnant to EY as there have been talks of layoffs before June 30! Should I wait longer or just go ahead and rip off the bandaid? Been stressing about this a lot , thinking people will judge me for getting pregnant 😢. Please help!!

like
Arrow Icon

When's the absolute drop dead date to know if you're being laid off or not?

like
Arrow Icon

If I apply for a role externally, what info about me (rating, salary, fired or not...) the new company can request from HR of my old company? What is HR supposed to disclose and what not?

like
Arrow Icon

Layoffs coming to Deals practice?

like
Arrow Icon

If John Schnatter resigned before the layoffs, would we have kept the account and all our lost soldiers?

like
Arrow Icon

Deloitte fired me, then the client fired Deloitte and hired me. Is there any NDA or other contractual issues I may face if D finds out?

likefunny
Arrow Icon

Can I be fired for constantly getting same feedback from my engagement managers that I need to pay attention to details? How do I improve on this?

like
Arrow Icon

Oh well! Just heard from HR that PwC layoffs is an ongoing process.

like
Arrow Icon

Damnit Pwc: every time I check my email you have laid off another one of my teammates. Stop. Just stop.

like
Arrow Icon

I personally don't believe it, but one of my recently lay-off colleague mentioned that in big 4 (especially Deloitte-KPMG) laid off people of color in their recent lay offs...Mostly Asian-south Asian, I just want to clear my head and wanted to ask this.. Thanks for your input! :(

like
Arrow Icon

I just got pulled off a brief and replaced by another writer....am I about to fall victim to Corona layoffs?

like
Arrow Icon

Which of the holding companies do you think treats their employees best? I’m thinking pay, promotions, effort to avoid layoffs, etc.

funnylikeuplifting
Arrow Icon

A reminder for those laid off: your job doesn't define you, nor should you let it define your worth. You are MUCH more than your employer & you should act as such. It's a part of you, not all of you.

like
Arrow Icon

Can somebody refer me at MBB, Accenture, EY and PwC? Victim of Deloitte layoff. Would appreciate any and all the help I can get!

like
Arrow Icon

Additional Posts

I have spent almost all vacation time at home, trying to go out in the few days left.....what are your top sites to visit within Manhattan???

Arrow Icon

Thoughts on career coaches? Anyone ever hire one for job search strategy or interview prep?

like
Arrow Icon

I am a beginner. How much should I invest in MF? I earn around 73K pa. What would be a reasonable amount?

like
Arrow Icon

Find it so rude when a firm is unresponsive after the final round of interviews. If you're going to reject me say no, don't just go silent...

like
Arrow Icon

Ideas for bday/xmas presents for mom? She’s going through some personal stuff and still hasnt settled into her new place so I dont want to get her materialistic goods that will take up more space when she’s still unpacking and buying things for the place. I’m tempted to give her an amex giftcard but feel its weird giving $ from child to parent and it may be viewed as impersonal? Maybe if i pair it with a personalized handmade gift or something? Thoughts?

like
Arrow Icon

Started interviewing client side in JULY and they want me to do one last panel interview. But now it’s so close EOY and getting my 401k match pay out that I’m rethinking it given timing, esp since I would be taking a pay cut to work there. What’s the most you think you can push off a start date to a new job offer?

like
Arrow Icon

Rich Levy out at FCB Health???

like
Arrow Icon

4 weeks on the bench. Reached out to 15+ MDs and SMs to help with proposals and/or staffing opps. Radio silence. Guess no one needs help then.

like
Arrow Icon

Any women here who are into watching or showing off on Skype? 34M who loves both and also broadcasts on Chaturbate. Dm me if interested

like
Arrow Icon

Average Salary increase for 2 and 3 ratings at NYC PwC for a first year after first busy season in Audit.

like
Arrow Icon

What are some productive and fun hobbies to pick up during covid? Need ideas!

likehelpful
Arrow Icon

I can’t stop eating 😖😩

like
Arrow Icon

Any ladies learn how to golf or take golf lessons? If so, did it help your career development?

like
Arrow Icon

What is a typical junior AD salary in nyc? At small vs big agency?

like
Arrow Icon

Never believed in the meme of “entry level job: needs years of experience” unit it happened to me. After a month of interviewing, an IQ test, and a modelling test, just got rejected for my dream job in the final round. Absolutely devastated and ashamed. I feel like I’ll never be good enough.

like
Arrow Icon

Hi ladies and gents, any reco on golf lessons in Chicago for beginners? Thanks in advance!

Arrow Icon

Is finance manager basically an accounting related role?

Arrow Icon

4th year going into my 5th year and am leading discovery and case management on a case with a $5 million budget (yeah!) with a rocket docket. Starting to understand why partners have no time to do substantive work: it’s all answering client questions and managing staff, associates, and reviewing partners. Any tips for the transition? I’ve never been too demanding from my colleagues and usually just pick up any slack myself. Now I need to motivate others and give direction.

like
Arrow Icon

been in a relationship for 2.5 years and realizing this isn't going to be the one. It's going to crush him. I've been on the receiving end of a breakup and I can't believe I'm thinking of putting someone I love through something so awful, even if I know it's the right path for us both. I'm in my late 30s and the thought of starting again makes me so sad. keep me in your thoughts, family.

likehelpful
Arrow Icon

I got into a project which I have no idea to talk about. And it’s making me feel worse day by day. Why was I added into that project? God!!!!

like
Arrow Icon

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what’s it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the Fishbowl app

Get realtime notifications and see
what's happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

Please enter a valid number