Looking for advice not judgement - I think I’m falling for my ex’s brother and I think he likes me too. The 3 of us were hanging last week and the brother held my hands oh so gently. What do I do?!?!

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Avoid the situation all together. Not trying to be mean or negative, but...Brothers don’t need you to be loyal, they’ll end up being loyal to one another. Don’t fall for something like this. I feel it will hurt you more than either of them, were you to get entangled.

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Walk away. As they say “bros before hoes”. Not meaning derogatory towards you.

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Run from this situation, especially if the brothers are close. Reminds me of my ex’ family. He had 4 sisters and 1 eloped with her sister’s recently divorced husband and had a child in the process. Let me just say how much of a mess such situations are. Thankfully the cousins are now in good terms but the sisters vowed never to speak to each other in this lifetime. His mom was so torn too. Avoid at all costs!

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SIS!!! NOOOOOOOO!!!

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Run the F away

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You’re just putting yourself in a position to hurt yourself and others that you care about. Don’t make a “gentle hand hold” more than it is! Plus get the fairy tale unrealistic romance and the thought that he might be your soul mate out of your head...

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I would ask your ex how he would feel about you dating his brother. if he says he would be weirded out or says it would bother him, then there's your answer.

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Why were you hanging with your ex (and his brother) in the first place? Just curious if the context matters

Got it. I probably would stay away - at the minimum, don’t be the one to initiate. This could go very poorly.

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How serious was it with brother 1? I know a guy who is happily married to the sister of a girl he used to date. It is probably
Uncommon and I am likely the minority but I don’t see it as gloom and doom. Can you provide more context?

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