Looking to get sober again and only attended aa via zoom meetings.

Anyone want to share their personal experiences when comparing in-person vs virtual?

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In person is SOOOOO much better. Nothing can replace the experience of being in the physical presence of fellow alcoholics.

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I’ve done both. Sober 8.5 years. There is nothing like being amongst your fellows in person. Hands down it’s in person for me

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Never attended a zoom AA, so can’t really help there.

However I relapsed a few times over 20 years with very long stretches of sobriety in between. I know the feeling of “looking to get sober again.” The last relapse I didn’t know if I could get sober again and it was hard to do. It was so worth it.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

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In person meetings and sponsorship provide for the integral component of humanity that simply isn't present online, and the number of deaths and relapses due to covid support that. There's also an extra level of commitment and accountability when you have to get dressed and leave the house, and sooner rather than later hold a service position. Zoom is way too convenient and easy to get distracted from.

With zoom there isn't the meeting before and after the meeting, removing the possibility of connecting with other alcoholics on a more personal level, and therefore the possibility of finding a sponsor. For me AA didn't come alive until I got inro the book with a sponsor.

When I look at it through the lens of life or death (which this very much is for me), I want to do what those before me have done, and leave absolutely zero to chance.

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Thanks for all your advice IBM

My home group is zoom. I occasionally get together with some of the members that are local. We have meetings every day so I am able to keep a level of consistency and develop relationships. Many of us join 30 min before and stay on longer for that additional fellowship. I choose a men’s only meeting (just a personal choice for my sobriety) bc it’s where I feel most comfortable.

I am newly (9+ months) sober and working my steps. I tried several meeting in my area at first but they did not resonate. I soon found a virtual group and just felt strong connection with the members. Everyone openly shares phone numbers and were calling me soon. Also currently doing a separate step study with some in the group. First time having considered life without alcohol and truly loving it. I feared life would be so boring without it but has proven to be false thinking as much of my thinking was. Looking forward to spending the holidays alcohol free with my wife and kids for the first time. Hopefully not hurt myself putting together toys on Christmas Eve.

In-person is scary the first three times, then it’s so much more rewarding and presents opportunities to experience the full breadth of recovery (including fellowship, friendship, service, and most importantly, human connection with an understanding soul).

That said, any AA is better than no AA. I got sober a couple years before the pandemic, and the switched to zoom during the lockdown. It was convenient but I switched back to in-person pretty much as soon as I could. Nowadays I do maybe 1 zoom meeting per 6 months, and maybe 4 in-person meetings a week.

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