M here. For those using Muzz or Salams, how’s your experience been so far? I think I have a pretty decent profile but not finding a lot of luck (this is of course subjective).

Can anyone share some insights especially female 🐠? Do ladies usually expect us to DM them?

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I met my fiance on there, Good luck! I think one thing to remember is women usually get a lot of matches, so always keep the conversation interesting and keep it going w questions and such to different between like hey whats up and be a gentleman alot of creepos on the apps. But be yourself, and keep praying to be guided to your future spouse and I know it will happen inshallah!

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Yes, if you match with someone usually women expect the man to reach out. (Key word “usually”, don’t come for me)

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Background: 35/M and my sister 40+/F

Past Exp: hit or miss for me. I did get to know some amazing people along the way and have become close friends with some of those. I did get close once! Unfortunately it didn't work out, but it's for the best. I'm thankful for everyone that I've talked to because I learned so much about myself.

My sister had it TERRIBLE on the apps. As did numerous female friends.

Current Exp: A lot of nothing 😂, but I know what qualities I want and things I refuse to give up (i.e communication). My friends (all girls) have noticed that things are much slower on the apps nowadays. We think, due to a lift in COVID restrictions, people are back to"normal" life.

Ladies you can correct me, but 100% DM them first. Not with just a "hello" or "hi," something with substance. Don't be shy.

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I get a fair amount of initial messages from women first too.
As is always the case, it depends.

But my experience has been 60% me, 40% them on initial messages.

It’s not all bad but there’s a lot of people you won’t mesh with (either too religious or not religious enough, too forward or too reserved, etc).
Overall, it’s not ideal but it’s probably one of the best options out there aside from live connections from friends and family.

Salaams > Muzz though, in my opinion.

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I met my now husband on Salaams so it definitely worked for me! During my experience I would say it definitely helped if the guy DM’d first with a question/ice breaker and not just “hey”. Take time to read the F profile and make conversation based on that. Sometimes it’s just hit or miss, so just try your best and Insha’allah it will work out!

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Sisters, what’s ur biggest complaint/challenge/issue/obstacle about the guys you’ve come across on these apps?

Yes, women do expect you to make the first move, if you’re matched.

I think there is a big expectation for men to drive the convo. I'm not using them personally, but have had friends who did. I think they said it took a LOT of matches to get good conversation, and even then, it was a slow burn for sure. I would say keep at it personally, but just know that it's not as fast as Bumble/Tinder because it's designed to work at a slower pace

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