M30šŸ  here in financial services who repeatedly receives comments about my baby face and looking like young / high schooler etc and can't grow facial hair. It's especially limiting given peers and juniors look 5-10 yrs older than me and clients think they are senior to me.

I think an online branding / stlylist consultant could help me look more mature. Eg what frame style / color glasses, hair style, clothing.

Any recommendations or experiences?

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This is an interesting challenge to be honest. There are possibly two potential variables here. It could very well be the physical appearance, or it could be you being self conscious about it. So while a physical appearance might manifest in additional confidence and get you the end results you want - it actually might just be how you own it. I got the baby face a lot and realized that sometimes people treated me like an intern, but I also made the mistake of allowing it to happen sometimes. Donā€™t be afraid to say yes to things you normally wouldnā€™t agree to (for me I didnā€™t drink a lot, play golf, or play poker) but Iā€™d make a rule to never say no to something two times in a row. I thought I was imposing on their good times by saying yes, but being nervous and being afraid to say yes is what a high school or college kid (especially an asian one) would do. If someone asks you to join them, assume they mean it and say yes. Own where you are and know you belong. And after you do something 2-3 times with the group make sure you organize the next one. These small things help to break down these barriers so that it becomes less of a perceived teasing when they call you young and more of a friendly joke that show bonding rather than a micro aggression.

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Well said. Some of it is probably in my head. When I speak, peers and directs admit that those notions go away. But it's especially apparent when in meetings or running workshops with executives, aged 45-70. It's been strongly implied by various bosses that for some sensitive topics or senior meetings, better if someone else presents or attends to help get the point across. Again, I am a realist - all about what's best for the team and fully understand their logic so I'm not disputing it. Just trying to improve myself

I help my male friends with their clothing style, hair style, grooming style. Maybe able to give you some suggestions depending on your look.

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Working out goes a long way if youā€™re male. Since on average, Asians are smaller/thinner than other counterparts, and it might affect how seriously people take you. It could also help with the baby face.

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Same issues with looking young. Prob doesnā€™t help that Iā€™m also a female. Iā€™ve decided to test if itā€™s my face or the way I carry myself by turning off my video on zoom.
The self doubt is a by-product of always being treated as a young/inexperienced person. I hope to rebuild my confidence during Covid wfh!

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