Made it a week so far with out any to drink. Praying for another next.

So my psycho ex (broke up our 3.5 year old relationship this June) and is now engaged to an american girl (apparantly for citizenship). he still keeps emailing me (contd.)

If you had to designate a sixth vital sign, what would it be?

AITA? Husband is in grad school and acquired some debt to pay for moving, school; it’s about $5,000. Since I have a good paying job and savings, I offered to help and I also told him to try to ask his parents for help since he never asks for anything from them. He said he would think about it and I assumed we would talk about it again. Last week, he told me he “decided” to take out a loan to pay down his debt. He hasn’t done it yet but I’m hurt and also disagree w/ this move. Cont.

Did you have good SAT scores? Trying to get an idea of how important it is for my daughter, who is interested in tech...she doesn't test well and I'm very nervous but would never admit it to her.

How many of you ladies are in the same boat as me with baby fever but not at all financially ready to conceive with your partner?😅

How long have you been on the bench currently? I’ll start: 2 months

I’m in awe of Cathie Wood from ARK Invest. Tell me that I’m wrong.

What's the fixed pay of a home grown team leader(CL-9) in ACN technology with 6 YOE?

Will it hurt me in the long run to have comms experience in different industries? My agency is hiring and I'm watching folks at all levels who would otherwise be qualified for a role be disqualified because their experience isn't solely in the tech/B2B space. I enjoy the work I'm doing now but I'm still so new to my career that I can't help but be curious about working in PR for fields like entertainment or consumer. FWIW, my internships were all fashion PR and I didn't think I'd be in tech.

Hi y'all 👋🏽 I am thinking of creating a bowl just to discuss designation levels and pay ranges in the banking industry. Would you be interested in joining?

What is sales strategy and operations about? Is there any books / upskilling tips from fellow fishbowlers out here? Looking to exit and want to prepare myself for the role. Thanks in advance!

Currently looking for Tech consulting/ Implementation consultant/ privacy roles in London. I have both CIPP/E and CIPM.
Please let me know if you know any roles that are available? Or any recruitment agencies you can refer me to

Thank you

Recommendations for how to allocate 401k with Fidelity. Just switched jobs and have to move from Merrill Lynch to Fidelity

I am planning to switch but since i am in bond with current org. If I leave without paying bond amount they will not give me experience certificate.
Can someone help me to know how important experience certificate is?

Hi,
How is the work culture in Schlumberger ( SBL ) account in Capgemini for the automation testing guys.
Appreciate your response.

Hi.. anyone interested in starting a study group for GMAT prep?

Starting on my journey to sobriety today from sex addiction. I’ve been clean from alcohol for several years but my therapist has pushed me to start attending AA meetings in addition to SAA meetings. I know I can’t overcome this alone.

Anyone have experience with high range drink driving offences? How has it impacted your career?

Wanted to post to get this group moving 😊. Currently a little over a year sober/ alcohol free. Welcome to all of my fellow folks in any type of recovery!

What are some fun sober activities or hobbies? Meaning where it's hard or impossible to drink while doing the activity? Hiking, bike riding, shooting guns are some that come to mind. What else?

I’m a Sr Manager and I was arrested for the first time in my life, and it was for DWI. I haven’t been convicted as it’s a long drawn out process, but curious how big of a deal this is when looking for consulting/IT/Program Management type jobs. Anyone with experience or stories getting hired with a DWI? I’m freaking out that I’m not going to be able to switch and find good 200/250k+ paying jobs now

Folks that took medical leave for alcohol use treatment: What was your experience? Did you do inpatient detox? anyone skipped detox and go straight into an outpatient IOP? How was that? How long were you out on leave? How much notice did you give ur boss before the leave? Anyone quit/not go back?
I’m ready to get real treatment for my alcohol usage. Would love to benchmark my path against others in the group as I don’t trust my decision making ability right now.

A little over three months sober now. I’ve been doing okay, but tonight after going to a party and not drinking (didn’t struggle with that) realized how much my life is changing and it’s kind of sad

Help! I stopped drinking but now I smoke the vape pens & I’m hopelessly addicted to nicotine, worried about my lungs. How do I quit this hellish fix? Feel I may start smoking cigs to get off the vape?

Feeling so frustrated and scared. I am trying my hardest to be loving to my brother who is addicted to many things. My family has been encouraging him for years to get real help. He’s finally semi-agreed to go to a detox facility and then rehab. However, those are far away from where we all live now. My 70+ dad wants to fly with my brother there to make sure he goes. I understand, but also...there’s a freaking pandemic going on with a virus targeting older people. Cont’d...

My dad has a problem with alcohol. When he stops drinking for a day he clearly exhibits all the signs for alcohol withdraw. Shaky hands, sweating insomnia. I’m so tired of seeing him fall. My mom has passed away (they were long divorced) so I really don’t have anyone to turn to. How can I be supportive without being an enabler? He has lost the last three jobs and is currently jobless and will must likely need my financial help soon.

What do you do to stop depression or negative thoughts?

I relapsed one week ago and feel awful about myself. I’m having trouble finding motivation and strength to get sober again now

Just wanted to post an update. 68 weeks ago I posted about my drinking problems. It was bad. It’s been 8 months now without a single drink. I still can’t believe it. I still miss drinking. I’ve sat with coworkers and watched them drink. It’s not nearly as fun, but I am so thankful each morning I can hold my head up high. Will I drink again? I only said I would quit for 60 days. Can I have a beer? Some wine? A fine bourbon? I sometimes crave it. I guess there is the answer! You can all do this!

What happens if a employee discloses his performance has suffered because corona virus got him depressed and he’s been drinking?

been in downward spiral since COVID, struggling with being alone, loved the travel, teams. got depressed and angry. Dreaded work. In the process got to drinking 4 up to 15 drinks most days. Gained weight. Didn’t care about living. Have tried to stop over and over. Last week I woke up with a bloody nose and for the first time cared. I don’t know what changed. I am 7 days sober and I am starting to feel like the me I remember! I am proud! I am thankful! I just needed to share!

66 members already! For those of you currently working a 12 step program, if you choose, share below your addiction and your length of sobriety. Perhaps that’ll get some good Q & As going

Hey everyone,
I’ve been clean for about 6 years (with NA) and started to use kratom 6 months ago, without fully understanding what it really is. I’m really ashamed as I realise I relapsed.

As there ain’t nothing like a free lunch I should have known earlier feeling like that wasn’t right. But I guess I lied to myself.

I’m 35 hours off it and negotiating to go to the bodega and get some. How long do withdrawals last? Will tomorrow be better?

Does anyone know of a great rehab place in Arizona? I’m in a bad way

My husband is an alcoholic and it’s getting worse with the holidays. He’s started every day drinking high alcohol-content IPAs as early as 8am. And he drinks them all day and all night like soda. He did AA when he was younger but is now vehemently against it. He is high-functioning. Has a PhD from MIT and works for a venture capitalist firm. I wondered how he gets through the day, but he started to come home early (mid-afternoon) and immediately open a beer while working. What should I do?