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Major crush. She is brilliant: intelligent, insightful, confident, kind, a champion of diversity, funny. But, id never overstep our workplace boundaries by extending an invite to drinks. Sighhh.

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Some work crushes are meant to be appreciated, as in you just dig the person so much and think they are a phenomenal human being who genuinely makes going to work and all of the shit we have to put up with so much better. Other work crushes are all-consuming, stop you in your tracks encounters and defy common sense. I have been fortunate to have a few of the former. I’ve only had one of the latter. I married that one. Enjoy your crush, whichever it may be.

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Cheers to that. I fell in love at work. Broke a lot of boundaries. But we'll be together forever. Love love love him.

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You act like we stay at our jobs forever. At some point one of you will move on, just stay in touch. Make your move when you're in a situation that makes you comfortable. And to the person that said develop a friendship - bad idea for many reasons, including that you should never want her to feel like you became friends with her to get into her pants down the line. I'm a firm believer in fate, and if the situation isn't right right now, doesn't mean it won't be sometime in the future.

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You guys this is the unsexiest crush confession of all time. Respectfully woke and everything (she champions diversity is one of the top five things that gets you hot for her?)—-but you dont even WANT to ask her out? You dont want to “overstep workplace boundaries?” Ad People who swept everything off their boss’s desk to bang in the office at 2am are rolling over in their graves! Have some sexy sex you guys—-you’re young and it’s summertime! 😃

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Oh wow, you know what else was sexy in the summertime? When another CD sent around sexual messages about my body to other co-workers. That was a sexy, sexy time

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Gee thanks ☺️

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@BBDO1 yea, to me those qualities in someone are very very sexy. Your views on what is, or isn’t sexy, is your own opinion. I do love that she champions diversity because as a person of color, someone that truly champions diversity and inclusion at work is the ultimate. I could give two fucks about what ad people or finance people or government people or whoever used to do. To ME, it’s important to respect our work place boundaries because we spend so much time at work and no one should ever feel uncomfortable. So I’d rather feel what I feel and not even ask her out. That’s what i believe. That’s what i live. .... this thread is becoming very annoying.

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This guy is part of the old guard that will soon die out that prioritizes boys club fun over making sure people aren’t being taken advantage of. The rest of us are too busy focusing on making good work, and having a life outside of work

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Just ask me already jeez

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Maybe Try to develop a friendship with this person first so it’s easier to ask them out. But, If you want to take a risk, maybe try this: “Hey the campaign we created turned out great. I can’t believe we won an award for it. Anyways, I’m taking a coffee break from work and wanted to know if I could take you on a date sometime? It’s totally cool if you say no.” Idk, life’s to short. Take a risk sometimes, but be professional and respectful.

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It’s me isn’t it? He he

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Not sure why you all think I WANT to ask her out. It was just a confession of a crush and I’m very clear that I’d never overstep workplace boundaries. It’s something I’ve never done nor will ever do. I personally don’t think it’s appropriate so appreciate the advice to ask her out but not going to. Maybe when either of us move on from our workplace but who knows.

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CW3 boo. Don’t be a bully.

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Hey OP can you tell us more about her? I’m genuinely curious! And no I won’t be like the others and ask you to ask her out. It’s just so romantic to read your post.

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Is this a line from a John Hughes film? Cue the Spandau Ballet music...

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You’re an ACD and you don’t know who John Hughes is?! How old ARE you!!!

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This is like wife guy

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She probably isn’t into you anyways .

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Or maybe she is... and she’s thinking the same thing about you.

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Lol weak

I’m still laughing at this post in an ultimate beta white knight way. Hope it works out and stumbles into your lap since you don’t plan to be proactive

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