Manager gave feedback on quality of work. I put in effort and now I feel I have become very defensive about every time he points anything on the deliverable. I feel like I need to explain why I am right and stand my ground but at the same time don’t want to come across as rude. Please help fam.

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How junior are you?

At the end of the day, your manager owns the deliverable and will get questioned and most likely have to answer for everything in it

So unless you're the one presenting, I'd suggest just sucking it up. Its their right as a manager no matter how right you think you are / may be

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Feedback isn’t negative in every situation, it’s just someone else perspective and insights. On of the biggest lessons I have learn was to stop trying to be the best by yourself and work with this manager to improve the overall value of your collective (yours, the team, your firms) work for the client. It isn’t always about being right as rarely, if ever, is someone 100% right.

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Have a direct conversation with your manager that you felt the deliverable was in good shape and want more explanation on the changes. If you are early in your career or new to the firm a good manager would take the time to example some of the changes - are they quality of work (like you didn’t know what you were doing and need to be coached) - client preferences (good to know for future) - manager preferences (annoying but helots wither upward management). Frame the conversation as coming from a place of learning to do better in the future and reduce rework for your manager moving forward.

He’s a year senior to me

Something tells me you may be feeling his feedback is more nit picky than warranted. I don’t know the background here. If you are that cognizant of how it makes you feel specifically when this person offers feedback then it doesn’t seem like you have an issue receiving feedback in general. This is an assumption so feel free to correct.

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