Marital counselling, mental health and therapy (through certified professionals) has been a taboo everywhere, but this is especially true amongst desis - be it in India or desis abroad. However, I’m curious to know how effective or useful it has been for people who have ACTUALLY gone through counselling when going through marital issues, for example. There are many comments recommending it, but are people speaking from personal experience or because it’s been popularised in web series/movies/TV?

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I have been in Therapy since childhood. Grew up in India, Bangalore. I have gone through at least 5 therapists. It works sometimes and it does not work. You have to keep trying till you find a sweet spot with your therapist.

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Thanks. Curious to know why you felt the need to change therapists, and what was the sweet spot you are referring to. For instance, was it down to their style: how harsh/ brutally truthful the therapist was, for what you could handle? Or was it because you felt the therapist wasn’t up to their job, that they weren’t understanding your issues or even if they did, perhaps because they may have not suggested solutions that worked for you at the time? How does one guard against taking an incorrect decision, especially when they are in a vulnerable space?

Born and raised here— helped me a lot. But some of it is trial and error because finding the right therapist take time. All my friends (brown and non brown) are in therapy and we really like it.

I’m glad it’s not as taboo anymore

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It’s based on your personal needs. Things to consider are: race/ethnicity of therapist, whether they understand/relate to immigrant issues/gender issues, whether the therapist is understanding of our profession, etc.

It’s like choosing a doctor or a university or a job. It depends on your personal needs.

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You’d expect surprised but when I was hitting a wall with therapists in the world I used instagram to follow some mental health accounts and find the best people for my issue before signing up with them. Sometimes going to a counselor and striking out can be disappointing over and over, and expensive too. This was a way for me to get immediate help while also looking for a long term solution.

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I know a lot of my friends and me included have taken therapy at various stages of our life. If you need help you do. We don’t shy from taking help when we have physical ailments. Infact in our desi society heart disease/cholesterol is so openly discussed then why stigmatize mental health which can actually affect each and every aspect of your physical health if left untreated.
Also what you see on TV more often than not are drawn from actual experiences🤷🏻‍♀️.

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