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Married women with kids give me some tips how you manage to keep your husband happy, your kid happy and progress in career.

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It's all about a detailed calendar. Who needs to be where when, who can take them, and make sure you're setting and reviewing expectations. My kids are older, so if I have a schedule from hell coming up we plan for it. My husband and I have a deal. At least an 30 minutes a day of undistracted time - no kids, no work, no talk about work. It might be 5am over coffee, and we're not solving the worlds problems, but it's just time to remember why we chose each other.

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Husband gets sex in the morning on the weekends. Otherwise I am legitimately too tired. I come to work late so I get my kids ready and spend time with them in the morning and I try to get home before they go to bed or work from home. When I spend time with the kids we talk about all kinds of things and I am really engaged with them. During the week and when I'm working, I focus on work to be as productive as possible, but if I need to do something for the family, I will.

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All of the above. Also, take advantage of flexibility every opportunity you can. My kids are still young (so in daycare full time), so if I find myself on a random Tuesday afternoon with nothing pressing to do I'll go pick them up early. That may mean something comes up later in the day and i have to work when they're in bed, but it's better than wasting my afternoon doing nothing at the office.

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And how do you guys do that when you all are traveling

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FaceTime when traveling, but I don't travel too much...maybe a couple of times a year for a week at a time. My kids are in elementary/high school though so I enjoy the time when I'm traveling because I get great sleep.

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Here for the comments. No kids yet but planning to have them soon. (A side note: I read "When Work and Family Collide" by Andy Stanley and it was good).

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Get them ready for school in the mornings... Reserve a few hrs in the evenings for dinner, bath, bedtime.... Work after you put them to bed. And do a family day / half day during the weekend (i.e. Saturday movies and dinner).

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EY1 sometimes I travel simply because I need sleep ;) Mine are older too, (college) and while I'm not physically as exhausted as I was when they were little, sometimes they get me to a point of mental exhaustion ;)

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It truly takes a community to raise a kid. Get to know other parents and help each other out. Plan vacations and actually take them. Take time to really listen to your kids and ask good questions. Meet your husband at the door and give him a big hug and kiss, go to bed at the same time and stay connected with text messages. Try to work from home when possible. Finally, take care of yourself by taking lunch, exercising and have fun.

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Be home at night and work after the kids go to bed. Don't forget to say thanks to the hubby... And give him what all men want... 😚

No secret to the sauce, especially for us that travel. Some days and weeks are more flexible for family/partner time, other weeks, not so much.

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