Matched with a girl on a desi/Muslim app a couple of days ago, convo has gone very well but she is pushing hard with the marriage talk already 🥴 I like her otherwise so far but this is getting a bit overwhelming. She also lives in a different state that is not an easy drive to, and she is expecting that I fly in to meet her next weekend.

Is this normal, or is it normal for me to be “second-guessing” things?

Confused, and would appreciate any advice.

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Looks like she is on that app with the intention of getting married ASAP. If you aren’t ready for it, make it clear to her.


Take your time OP. Make it clear to her too..

Reminds me of a friend in a southern state

You gotta communicate it with her. You might not be on the same page now. But sometimes when you talk it out, you figure out more about the person and see if it's a match for you.
When I was talking to my now spouse, they seemed ready but I wasn't. When I talked about taking it slow, it was understood well and we made it work

OP-- on one hand I would say marriage talks are too early but I also like to see it from the perspective that girl is wanting to meet you and that could be a positive sign. It takes ages to fix up a meeting. Do tell your stand clearly.

Just be clear about your intentions… tell her you are looking for a serious relationship with the intention of marriage but that you want to spend time to get to know your potential future partner. I don’t think it’s a warming sign… it’s more cultural and she might be testing your intentions. You should definitely chat for a few weeks online/over the phone/via FaceTime. Then, try to meet up halfway if you can. Good luck!

OP… can we have an update on how things went?

Good for you OP! You deserve better. Good luck! :)

OP where are you based btw?

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