Maybe this isn’t the right place to post this. My sexual performance anxiety has gotten out of control and I cannot perform during sex with my girlfriend of two years. First year we had great sex, second year (COVID) derailed my mental and physical health and I’m still recovering. We haven’t had normal sex since January. Last night she initiated (shocked me) for the first time in forever and I got anxious and she started crying. I can’t keep breaking her heart like this. Most attempts (cont.)

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Oh friend, I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. The past 16 months have been so hard for so many of us. Have you spoken with your doctor or therapist? Therapy would be the ideal first step; intimacy starts in the mind, so it’s natural / common that because you’re feeling stressed, anxious, grieving (normal life, changes in family/friend relationships), etc that you are affected in other ways. It’s a lot for one brain to handle! A psychiatrist might be the best bet - they can help speak with you about things and determine if you might need some help via medications and behavioral coping tools to lessen your anxiety (or address anything else going on), or could refer you to a good therapist if they determine talk therapy is the best approach. GP may be a short term fix, but won’t get at the root of the issue. Also, if you share your city, I’m sure some of us may have recommendations for practitioners/practices for you to research.

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