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Me: “can you confirm if you will attend the event” Friend: “my husband said we can attend, so I’m confirming for 4 of us”. A week before the event.
Me: “come 30mins earlier if u can for appetizers”Friend: “I’m not sure he’s very busy” .... then 3 days before event Friend: “his aunt has cancer and we have a birthday party to attend the day before so not sure if we can make it to the event the next day..I’ll let u know the day before”. Me: (thinking) 🙄

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I have had “friends” like this. My belief is that if they consistently have reasons to miss your events, they’re not really your friends. Real friends will find ways to be there/support you no matter how busy life gets. If this is a first for the friend, then I’d cut them some slack.

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I have a ‘friend’ like that, never say no but never commit either, then there is always an excuse for no show. I’ve finally realized that she is really not my friend, and I’ve stopped considering her in my planning.

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Flaky friend but what reasonable person is having gatherings like this during a global pandemic?

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It's not virtue signaling, it's recognition that we are thisclose to accessible vaccine, there are multiple strains running rampant and cases are high right now. Safely expanding your circle slowly is one thing -- I sure as hell am not attending any 'events' with multiple families in someone else's home or a restaurant. It's not safe. Just because you're bored of a pandemic doesnt make it go away.

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Just disappointed... in general I feel like I’m always going out of my way to be there for my friends on whatever it is but now realizing that I don’t always get some courtesy in return. I guess I’ve living my life wrong. I guess as you grow up, your circle of friends got smaller or people do change too much

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Totally understand. I feel the same with some of my friends too. So is decide to refocus my energy on those friends who do reciprocate

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