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When I was 25 I dated a 50 year old and although it didn’t work out in the end he treated me with more care and respect than anyone I ever dated
He did, teenagers
The kind of red flag that will pay your rent for a little putting out though. Ladies, take advantage. If you’re going to date them, take their money.
Enthusiast
And we all know young attractive women have zero power over older men
40 year old woman posted this
50
It's more of a red flag for the girl than it is for the guy.
Conversation Starter
Lol I bet if it were a 40 year old female and a 20 year old male it would be “more of a red flag for the girl” too
Enthusiast
How about the opposite? I'd be happy to date a man in his 20s in my 40s... Just saying 🤷🏻♀️
Same
Enthusiast
Can you imagine him sitting next to her, salt and pepper beard, and she’s filming a tiktok dance.
Looking pretty good to me 😭🥲
Wait hold on. Let’s break this down a bit. Usually when a forty plus year old man dates a twenty year old they are looking for a lot of validation. Similarly the female is potentially very impressionable given the stigmas and applications society has placed on them. Could this happen the other way around? Yes 100%, but usually it’s associated with a young impressionable female, potentially needing money?, and an insecure kinda dirty old dude.
Let me be clear, not all the time, but that’s the stereotype. Why does it seem more dirty than the other way around? Because of the way it’s been programmed and how society views it - a lot of young girls are willing to do a lot and give up a lot of dignity to get out of a poor or no opportunity situation - it’s how we have been raised or taught. A lot of men know this and can potentially know the power they hold. That’s why OP is saying it’s a bigger red flag. There’s a history behind this that exists
Enthusiast
IDK I think Olivia is cool for getting Harry Styles
I love older men ! When I was 16 my boyfriend was 43 . I enjoyed the daddy figure until he passed away . Am 25 and still find older men attractive. They are like fine wine and get better with age
Enthusiast
Ha. This is a joke, right?
You’re married, why do you care what other adults do? Or are you insinuating women in their 20s have no agency?
More likely the women in her 20s knows exactly what she’s doing and fleecing some man in his 40s. Or it’s a mutual transactional ‘relationship.’ Or they’re actually into each other.
Point is who cares? Mind your own business, and be happy with your spouse.
Visual Storyteller
This ^^^
If you got issues, you can call me daddy
I also went from mildly amused to mostly bored during that same time. Coincidence? I think not.
Enthusiast
What about men in their 40s who are open to dating men in their 20s?
Also if the flag is flaming, is it still red?
But they pay the bills 💸
I know some gay men who have always dated older and have much better lifestyles and relationships than their counterparts.
I'm 25 with a 40 year old and all my needs are taken care of, couldn't be happier. Y'all are missing out on a spicy dynamic 😂
Many smart strong women on Fishbowl have discussed relationships they cherish(ed) with older men, often 10+, sometimes 20+ years older. Often enough here to say it’s common. No probs if it’s not for you.
Many such relationships are not about money, but great company mutually. Personality and more (including sex) that is fabulous for both independent of age - just great people great chemistry.
I’ve dated women 10+ and 20+ years younger who invited me, insisted on paying for alternate dates, never asked for anything. The dynamic at that gap can be connection, not cash/SB.
There is ALWAYS a power dynamic, but that involves 2 directions and can be all sorts of things, and often cannot be seen outside the couple.
When I see women leaping to assume the older man is ‘exploiting’ a power dynamic or financial need, that’s disrespectful of the woman and 🚩🚩🙄🙄
Thank you for this comment!
I'm 25 with an income of 95k base (but I always end up over 100 by the end of the year with bonuses, etc). I have a great career ahead of me.
I know there's 25 year old men who make as much as I do, I've seen them here on fishbowl. But I have yet to meet one in real life. 🤷🏽♀️ what's typically been more common in my experience are men who make way less than me and can't get their money right at 25. They live with parents, roommates, etc. I live alone, we're too old to be sneaking around. I don't want to be taking care of a younger man financially.
Older men match my ambition, the connection and intelligence shared is unmatched. I'm with a 40 year old currently who holds my dream job title, there is absolutely beneficial mentoring that goes into play there. He owns his own home so I can come over freely. He has his money right and could travel with me (unlike most of my 25 year old friends in general). Our first date costed him over $1,000 and I've never had someone do that for me.
The power dynamic here has to mostly do with the bedroom nowadays. I've dated older men for a while though so I absolutely do see the other end when a female doesn't nearly as much. Me making 20k a year (at 18) as a waitress seeing men making over 100k, I don't care what anyone says, looking back there absolutely was an imbalance there that was wrong. That imbalance I've found years later is solved when I make just as much as these older men.
However, now days I just like men 10-20 years older to match the same mindset I'm in.
Sorry but dating 25 year old men suck 🤷🏽♀️😂
Rising Star
Such a ridiculous statement. Unless you are in your 20s and resenting not getting hit on by men in their 40s and beyond, why is it bothering you?
Or someone in her 40s resenting men her age preferring younger — as many men have done since the beginning of time
Yeah. Definitely a red flag. I wouldn’t date any women who’s over 20 either.
SHUT UP ANGELA
I dated a 30+ divorcee in my early 20s. I’m a dude and IT. WAS. AWESOME! 5 stars, highly recommend!
nothing wrong really. if its not love, hes paying for a service. all good. most of us put it out for free, why not get paid for it lol.
Someone come get their intern
“Gigantic flaming red flag”
Is there an Oscar category for best exaggeration? If so, I’d like to nominate OP
Visual Storyteller
The hyperbole is strong with this op.
34F with 58M. If you all want to stereotype us, I’m his Sugar Momma in retirement and he’s my stay at home manager.