Men - when you say it’s not working out to your SO, are you trying to initiate a conversation on reasons / things you’d like to change OR trying to end it?

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If you say that then it’s over

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If they say it's not working, what it means is highly dependent on what they do next. If they state the reasons it's not working and tell you what they need, they want a discussion. If they state the reasons it's not working and pause and look at you, they're probably trying to end it.

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They are most likely trying to end it. But, if they ARE using that as a way of initiating a conversation - I wouldn’t want to stay with someone who can’t initiate a direct conversation anyway.

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Why is so hard to say what you want?

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It depends on what he has in his mind. Not all men are the same. You should know your man better than we do.

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Depends if they are a fixer or if they just ditch problems. Me personally I’m an engineer so I like to fix things. If something isn’t working out between me and my SO I would do a root cause analysis and see what needs to be changed

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I personally wouldn't just say "it's not working out" It would be followed by either "we need to talk" or "it's time to end things". Whichever statement I choose would be followed up by either further explanation/context or time for my SO to respond and react.

That's the general process, it could vary significantly depending on the SO. If I was either with them or knew them long enough for them to be truly significant, I would want to make sure that they had no confusion and as minimal pain as possible in either event.

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Depends

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