Met a guy a couple weeks ago. He was great, kind, smart and handsome, treated me like a king and was very interested in a relationship immediately. I was not on same page and had to eventually tell him. He is heartbroken and I feel miserable and guilty because I hurt him. I really wish I felt the same way but I do not and not sure why. How can I soften the blow for both of us? I also feel bad I may have led him on.

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No need to feel guilty for not liking someone, provided you were kind about it. We all have things that turn us on and off, and they might not always be objective.

I suggest you give him his space and let him decide if he wants to maintain friendship.

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Validate his feelings above everything. Let him know that you understand and acknowledge why he’s hurt - it will make a world of difference.

And then offer to give space. We’re all feeling more emotions from the past few months than we have in a long time. Sometimes space is the best thing you can offer, even if you wish you could do more.

Sending good thoughts your way ❤️ I’m sure this wasn’t easy on you either. Hope it works out okay, and that you also take care of yourself.

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