Met a MD at a HYP alumni event who works at a company I'm interested in. I sent an e-mail asking about open positions at his firm and he propositioned me. How to navigate w/o damaging chances?

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I mean this with all the love possible, are you insane?! He propositioned you via email after meeting you once and is twice your age and you’re considering leveraging him to get a job?

There is NO WAY to navigate this. Block the creep and find another way into the company.

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And then think about if you were to get in and it was through one of his contacts... what sort of favor would he come calling for then? Yuck.

OP, of course it was professional when you met him. No need to justify your behavior or explain how he propositioned you. I’m sorry this happened to you. Sadly, you can’t navigate this through him. He’s not being fair, and never will be, and trying to navigate it, though I know you wish you could, will cause you a ton of stress with the same -or worse- result than you have now. There are other companies and other MDs.

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Thank you for this. I was second guessing how I came off to him, and it is good to know the problem isn't with me. You're right - there will be other opportunities, and other companies.

I would look for other contacts at the company not connected to that MD. Do you have friends who work there? Anyone else who can refer you? If you have a close connection at the firm I’d also discuss the MD’s message with them. Not sure what the firm’s official policy would be but what he said was highly inappropriate and the company should know he is creeping on potential applicants- this is damaging to their reputation and any D&I efforts.

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Any firm would have a policy to jobs cannot be offered for sexual favors

Must agree with P1. I would not go near him again.

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Additional background: when we met it was 100% professional and I gave no indication of interest otherwise. He is also 50 and I am 23.

What do you mean exactly? How did he proposition you?

This is classic example of guy in power trying his luck to see how bad do you want that job and if he could get something else he will move onto next prey. I feel like guys like these should be exposed. I know easier said than done. Did he write that in an email back to you?
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