Met my bf during covid in city x. Pre-meeting him I always wanted to move to city y. A year into our relationship a job opportunity came up in city y and my bf supported me through it. I have been living in city y and loving it and have been ldr for a year now. I want my bf to move to city y but he says it doesnt feel like home to him. I feel like I will have to move back to city x or we break up. There is a small chance he will move to city y but he’s not happy about it. Continued in comments.

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Just break up and live your lives. You are not aligned where you are right now.

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I don’t understand. He’s not willing to move to City Y but he is willing to move to “a random state”? So does this mean he really doesn’t like City Y?

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Why can’t you spell out the cities? 😂 Are you typing in code because he’s on this app?

Anyway, it sounds like you don’t want the same things for your lives in the next few years. So either one of you settles and lives where they don’t want to. Or you both live where you want to live and break up

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What’s more important to you at this point in your life? Is it your relationship or living in the desired city of your choice? Neither is right or wrong, it’s up to you to determine this. Since you’re living in city Y you’re basically living a single life there (meaning likely hanging out with friends more and doing your own thing since your partner doesn’t live in the same city) - do you enjoy this lifestyle? Or do you miss your partner and would want to be with him regardless of where you live? Again, no right or wrong, just some questions to help you answer what you really want/what’s most important to you right now.

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Agreed ^

This is exhausting to read. Just say the city names lol

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Stop expecting husband level responsibilities from a ‘bf.’ LDR till he put a ring on it or kick that fool to the curb and upgrade.

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I really don’t want to move to city x anytime soon. I actually hated it when I lived there. My bf is pitching we pick a random state and move there. But i love city y and am tired of moving and feeling unsettled. I also don’t want to move to a new city w my bf until I know we can live together because I have doubts and want to test it out first before isolating both of us somewhere foreign.

But we love each other and don’t want to break up

Similar to associate1-As a more straightforward question: do you like the single-ish lifestyle that comes with city y? Would you still love city y if you were in a committed relationship there.

I thought you asked if I was not in a committed relationship. Its my dream for my bf to move to my city and us enjoy it together. I think I would be even happier in my city if I had a SO to enjoy the city with.

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