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Met someone in a bowl for the city I live in, and his initial inquiry was who would be interested in getting together and be friends (bc he was new to town). I met up bc I’m in a similar boat and happy to make new friends...except now the guy is trying to pursue me and being awkward about it (ex. he wanted to hang out and play the Empathy Game). I told him he was network/friend-zoned, but he keeps asking personal questions. What’s the kindest way to tell someone you don’t want to be friends?

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Unpopular opinion: kindest things to do here are either (1) ghost him (2) be harsh.

He either does better with no feedback so he can keep his illusion of the situation, or actually get feedback so he doesn’t screw it up next time.

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I agree - he's not listening, so you need to be overly clear now and being nice didn't work.

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Just tell him openly that it was nice to hang out but that you don’t think you clicked to be friends and you don’t want anything beyond that either. If he understands, great if not then stop replying to him and just leave it like that

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Yea you're going to have to be blunt here.

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Why do you have to tell him anything else? You already did and he is ignoring your decision. Ignore and cut him off

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Ugh I feel like that is telling someone they have a lame personality, which is, IMO, more difficult to change than losing weight.

#3 is nauseating. I’ll be more direct with him. Probably good for me to exercise that with someone I don’t really care about

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I would just block him and stop responding

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