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Just because theres a goalie... 🥅 ⚽️
Said the same thing 10 years ago about my wife.. her relationship ended a few months later and things worked out. Never know what will happen.
And I have a gold fish. That and her bf are two things that don't matter.
No, P1. No.
Like BA1 said, it could happen but there might not be much you can do about it. Don't be the guy who tries to interfere and don't be the guy who deliberately waits and misses out on other relationships. Que sera, sera. 🤔
@OP casually ask her to hang out again next weekend. I'd say she likes you, not sure on how her relationship is playing out though.. if I was into my boyfriend and committed I wouldn't be spending time with guys 1-on-1 unless they were old friends from before... or unless my relationship was ending and I was into the new guy.
On my story: I mentioned to my guy friend that I liked him. I asked why he never mentioned his gf in a year and he gave me some story about me blocking her on fb (I did not, and only met this chick once in 2012). He thought we had a disagreement and didn't want to meddle and then proceeded to not tell me he had a gf for a year. A week after this talk he called to invite me to a startup party, the next day he emailed a bunch of friends to invite them too. The night before I asked if anyone I knew was going - he said no and added that his gf would be away too. I went with a mutual friend, we said hello at the beginning and goodbye at the end - he was super touchy both times (pinching/squeezing my arms) and he typically isn't a touchy person. Didn't talk much outside of first arriving and leaving the party. I Got a "thanks for coming, hope you had fun" text the next day. And he's been distant and MIA since. Random texts here and there to say he's busy with work and that's it... ? Idk. Letting this one go as a potential something and as a friend I think. It's just too confusing and he's too hot and cold.
I was the girl in this situation back in 2012...I met a great guy but didn't even think about it because I was in a relationship. Fast forward to 2015...became single and reconnected with great guy and couldn't be happier. Everything happens for a reason.
How did you meet?
Ladies - So we met up for dinner tonight (the 2nd time we have met) and it was great! After I texted her that I loved spending the evening with her, she responds "Me too. We've got to catch up again soon". What is she thinking? She knows I'm single.
In my experience, all girl's long-term bf means absolutely nothing if there's a connection. Actually, easier than shorter-term bf situations
Agree with A2, but would add it's not entirely out of your influence. If there's a connection, keep seeing her and bring her into your circle as a friend. If nothing else, she could become a good wing woman. And while you can't control whether she changes her mind, or her BF gets jealous and does something stupid, you can give them both more chances.
Don't want to hijack this thread. But what advice would you have for a girl that has an acquaintance/distant guy friend she's into and he has a gf? (A gf he never talks about and practically hides from said friend).
How do I ⚽️🥅 without waiting it out forever or blatantly interfering? Be his friend? Tell him I like him and can't be his friend and step away?
He probably has no idea you're into him, or knows and is in to you too. Make it obvious and see if he makes a decision.
He's been incredibly busy with work lately (like consultant style travel, but he's an attorney) and he tries to call me every few days and hang as he can - he called the other day tho and was venting that he's doing the best he can but feels like I get upset when he can't hang with me or talk to me as often as he did before. I took that like he's trying? I've been inviting him out more often in the last month and initiating convo. Just don't know if a "I like you and am having a hard time just being your friend" convo would be a bad or good move. Or maybe I should hold off on that convo for now and let things roll a bit more?
Does he think you are being clingy? That venting sentence gives me pause. If you think that could be true I'd give him some space. If he continues to hit you up on his own, it's a good sign he's into you and then you might want to have that conversation.
Again just one guys opinion ^^^
He might. He said that after I told him about a tough week I had and how I wanted to step away from certain people, he assumed he was one and spun into that explanation/venting. He has been calling, texting, emailing once a day or so since.
I guess this would be a good time to step back and see what he does.