20s, single, stalling career, living at home...this is not where I thought I would be at this stage in life 😔

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Your 20s are incredibly hard. Not only are you trying to figure out who you are but also what do you want to be in this world.

I swear to you it gets better as you get older but, two things to consider...

1. You need to run your own race. Don’t worry about what people to the left and right are doing. Do you, do it to the best of your ability every day.

2. Be goal driven but, your goals shouldn’t be solely about compensation. Goals should be more about what it is that you want to do, the problem is you want to solve, the value you want to add and just as importantly how do you plan to give back and help

We are all cheering hard for your success. Go forth and kick ass.

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I think all of these are normal struggles in your 20s, however, since you are discontent, what’s one thing (just one - it can be small) that you could try to feel better? (E.g. could you start working with a career coach or would you contemplate moving out or could you find a hobby or passion to start?). All of these things can seem insurmountable, but if you start small you may start to feel better!

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This is why I don’t miss my 20s. The pressure feels so massive- to be successful, partnered/married, independent, fit, adventurous, etc. You will find your rhythm, grow to be successful in your career, and carve a path that doesn’t have you living at home forever. In the mean time, try to be kind to yourself and take a step outside of yourself for perspective: you have a career, not just a job. You have a family that loves you and is there to support you as you launch. You are single so you don’t have to worry about anyone but yourself as you figure out you! Most importantly, you have plenty of time to grow and make changes.

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In the same boat!! Left old job and city I had moved to post college to move back in with my parents, broke up w bf, and still trying to figure out how to “get good at my job”. We will get there!! Trying to focus on myself and build up from there instead of comparing to everyone else who seems to have it together. There’s more like us than we think!!

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You will get there! I promise , chin up

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