Mid-level expecting 1st kids (twins) in the next six months. Firm offers approx 3 months of leave in total, which can be taken all at once or split into 3x 1-month, or 1x 2-month & 1x 1-month chunks.

I don't think I want to take it all at once at birth, but I'm a bit worried about having to wind down & back up 3x if I split it into 3 periods throughout the year (idea being that we could do some traveling/visiting fam & be around at dif times of their growth if split 3x).

Thoughts?

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Good luck to you on twins. 3 months will likely go very fast (although each day will be looong). How you split it may depend on how you are feeling at the time and your planned childcare situation.

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Likely whenever we'd like. Both of our mothers are very eager to stay with us and help (but point taken).

I personally would do the 2 and 1. The first 2 months are a lot of work but also amazing, especially when it is the first kid. You are having twins which is pretty cool and leads me to think you really need the two months up front. Definitely wait on the third month if you can for when you can travel and they aren't just blobs (maybe 8-10 months old). Congrats!

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Sounds right, and the blob vs toddler travel has trade offs. I’ve done travel at 9 months, which is pretty pleasant, but twins would be twice the excitement, to say the least.

Foremost, congratulations! I was recently in a very similar situation. I agree with Associate 1.

The babies will not be sleeping through the night. For a lot of people running on a lack of sleep is difficult. Being there for the first two months will help with feedings and stress.

Knowing you want yo travel and visit others I will note, depending on your doctor it may not be recommended for your babies to travel to at least three months old.

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Thanks. The thought re: traveling and visiting would be for when they're a bit older (8-12 months), just a reason why I wouldn't want to take all of the leave at the beginning.

I think you should ask your partner what they’d prefer, and you are always welcome to change your mind about breaking it up once the babies arrive.

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She's flexible and suggested I ask others what they found best.

Take it all up front.

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Any particular reason why?

Take it all at once. The wind up/wind down multiple times will either be inconvenient or just won’t happen.

Also, if you can financially swing it, consider hiring a night nurse. Giving birth is a major physical and mental trauma and good sleep is critical to healing and mental health. As much as you’ll have a lot of help from family, etc., they aren’t going to be helping in the middle of the night.

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The nice part of taking it all at the front is people at work forget about you and actually leave you alone. It lets you dedicate 100% of your time to your family. You’ll still be able to take time off at the holidays to travel.

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