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Mid-30s w/kids, increasingly feeling out of place at my current company which is quite young (and smaller). Sort of feeling “tribeless”. Anyone else been in this position? What did you do?

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It’s work, not high school. Get the tea then happily go home to your kids while the little ones rip free beers at happy hour 👍🏼

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Yep. It’s not the agency, it’s a life stage. You are not pals/going out for drinks/hanging out with your colleagues anymore. Find a lunch friend or 2 and call it a day.

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My sentiments exactly... I’ve been through a lot of “I’m not a cultural fit” thoughts, then I realized I’m not doing the happy hour drinking thing anymore

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I do wonder, and want to know more, about the OP’s use of the term “tribeless.” My own predicament is partly the life stage thing, but moreso a feeling that my current company is not My People. If that’s the issue, then...while I get the whole This Is Mostly A Paycheck perspective, we spend 1/3 of our lives at work and if you have the opportunity to make it something you’re proud to be a part of, do it. Go and find Your Thing and Your People. But totally agree about the life stage aspect; I think it just gets awkward at mid-30s, for basically everyone at an agency

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Yes, exactly, thank you. While I totally understand and appreciate the “life stage” perspective, I think my main point is that there’s a lack of shared interests and personal connections that I personally find value in since 50+% of my waking life is spent in the office. Might just be that my company is pretty hollow in the middle in terms of age, and moreover many of those that are my age or older don’t have families; they still live the agency lifestyle so I find we have less and less in common. I wonder if it is just harder to find My People at a small agency or in advertising in general.

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I’ve felt this way and I’m very social so it’s been tough at times. Started a new freelance gig a couple months ago and have definitely found some people I click with in a real way. It’s not an agency though, which I think can be so cliquey and high school. Are you in a position where you can look for another job? Sticking it out isn’t so bad, I’ve done it and managed.

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Honestly, I’m probably not in a position to seriously look elsewhere as I’m in a really good place from a growth/leadership potential. I think I’ll have to revisit my own perceptions on the culture or people there, and how I can positively change those things or my own interests to be more content. We’ll see how it goes, but the differing perspectives here as well as the shared experiences have been helpful!

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