Might be unorthodox but why should a woman forego her own last name and keep the man’s? In terms of offspring, women contribute equally if not more so I don’t get why their own last names can’t be passed on. Just a thought

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I just got married last month and took my husband’s last name. I didn’t care one way or the other, so I asked him, and his preference was that I take his name. Had I wanted to keep my maiden name, he would have been fine with it.

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To win the patriarchy gold medal, in some parts of India, it is customary for the in-laws to rename the new bride entirely! As if they just got a new pet. Pretty much to wipe the "previous" identity of the woman. I see it happening less nowadays, but there are folks still practicing this whether it be under the guise of religion or tradition.

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Because patriarchal society said so.

Aka no good reason. You do you.

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I always thought it weird too. My wife does not have my last name. I didn't marry her to make her mine. Seems odd to take away part of someone's identity like that.

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Agreed!

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I’m Spanish, and we are always baffled at how practically the entire world does that except us. In Spain women don’t take surnames, and kids get both parents surname (yeah, that’s why our surname are long, but who the heck cares)

With so much feminism going on, it feels crazy that society is used to women taking the men’s surname. Hell, even many of my foreign female friends defend it. But to us it feels barbaric and medieval.

Funny thing is that in Spain then we have a stereotype of being machist.....

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EY1 my mom is the same way! She’ll respond to Mrs. [father’s family name] because it’s honestly easier than correcting, but it’s not her name

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To say women contribute equally if not more as a broad statement is silly. Every situation is different so don't turn this it a woman vs man thing

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Currently 8 months pregnant. I beg to differ. My body has changed to grow and sustain this baby, and I’m not even done yet. I’m taking time off work to give birth and take care of the baby. I’m primarily going to be responsible for feedings as we plan to breastfeed, so I’ll be sleep deprived. I’m also dealing with hormones. So I’ve got physical changes, career changes, and emotional/mental changes. My husband is supportive and has to do more heavy lifting at home (but not significantly as we still have help) as I become more restricted in what I can do, but his life has otherwise gone unchanged.

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Honestly? My boyfriend’s last name is much nicer than mine, I’d want his.. 😂🙌

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I feel the same way! I chose to not take my husbands name. Right now we are not planning on having children but if we were I completely see your point.

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A lot of other countries around the world don’t have this custom- most Asians (nearly all of them except Japan) keep their last names. A lot of European countries as well, and my husband is Moroccan and he says most women keep their names as well. From an international perspective, it seems more accurate to say this is a weird thing AMERICANS / westerners do, and nothing is convincing you to follow it.

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I didnt take my husband name and so didn't my girlfriends.

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Because men traditionally provide for the family. If everyone in the family has the man's name, then the community knows who's feeding these people.

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Pretty sure you can do whatever you want. I’ve had 3 marriages, all of my wives took my name and my 2 exes kept it after the divorce. I couldn’t have cared less either way but that was their choice. All are professionals and I assure you that none are wallflowers—quite the opposite.

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My name is a mix of my mother’s and my father’s in a way that sounded best to them

Tradition!

Naam mein kuch nahi rakha. Kaam dekho.

I hate my surname so I’m not expecting my future wife to take it

You have a choice now. It’s 21 century.

🤣🤣 sounds like you have a lot of extra time to ponder life’s deepest questions OP.

What else would I do 👽

An ass backwards custom.

I am hispanic, we don't do that, it's silly.

So just to clarify, I believe what OP is talking about here is not just the issue of taking the mans last name, but the children taking the woman’s last name instead of the mans last name. Is that correct OP?

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