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Minority friends (e.g. Ethnicity, gender, sexuality,etc) Microaggressions you experience weekly?

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At least give a trigger warning next time you bring up the topic.

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Micro aggressions are you fucking serious?

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I don't understand why people asking where you're from is offensive. It shows they're curious about you. Aren't you proud to show off your heritage?

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Micro aggressions are what happens when people feel entitled to not getting their feelings hurt in their safe spaces and get butthurt at anything that could remotely deal with gender or race or literally anything. Micro aggressions are what happens when our society becomes too PC. Stop embarrassing yourselves and this nation with your butt sore attitude

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^when I get this questions sometimes I wanna say "I came from my mothers vagina and no I don't have a girlfriend or wife or kids because I suck cocks for sport" people are just stupid.

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Seriously, while not 100% of the case, certainly, some of it might be a case of "you take offense to what you choose to take offense to". I get asked the "birthplace" question all the time. I know what they mean, I know they don't mean any harm - they just don't know how to phrase it.

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the word "microaggression" is triggering in an of itself. what a load of bullshit ppl grow up

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The usual one for any POC: "So where are you from?" "Chicago." Luckily my client usually leaves it at that rather than press on with the cringeworthy "No, where are you REALLY from?" forcing me to respond, "Chicago. Born and raised and spent the better part of 3 decades there. But if you mean where my ancestors are from, Taiwan." Uber drivers on the other hand... SMH

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Newsflash: middle ground exists between "OMG everything's too PC these days and people should just learn to suck it up" and "there is systemic bias and everyone in the word is out to get me." Microaggressions exist, and not just on a racial/gender/sexuality level. Like dealing with different working styles, we adapt where we can by recognizing where our subconscious biases and others' biases clash and modifying our behavior. It's not silly to aspire to something higher by recognizing and eliminating biases where we find them -- rather, it's silly to say "I yam who I yam and if you don't like it you're just butthurt"

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Please don't use the word microaggression. It makes our generation look like idiots.

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Asking if I'm in tech consulting or quantitative services

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"Trigger" is bullshit. Grow up and feel your feelings. I'm not going to censor myself so that you can feel better about the world around you. Microaggressions exist. The sooner you accept that, the sooner they will normalize and we won't experience them.

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PC is a phrase that assholes made up to protect themselves from feeling shitty that they are being assholes by saying racist, sexist, etc things to real human beings who are not straight white boys

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Don't call cultural differences between people micro aggressions. No one is being aggressive towards you by recognizing that you may come from a different background or may have a different working style. Treat everyone with respect and how you would want to be treated. That's it, there's no great mystery to it that involves white guilt or whatever else y'all are feeling to get you to be ok with the term micro aggression

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@P2 so when people don't treat you with respect due to your background or cultural differences then what do you call it? Being an asshole?

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"Are you in technology/computers?" " are you in sap?"

To be honest I hope you're not a man

@pwc2 i wish i could upboat u a million times, @bigDdigital the same but negatively

Genuine question, are white ppl who are honestly curious about your ethnic heritage allowed to inquire about it? If so, how?

It's annoying when someone asks "where are you from, where are you really from" for a few reasons: 1) they usually walk away after as if they are vindicated that they guessed right, and 2) not believing that I'm from somewhere in America implies that I must be a foreigner. So yes it's a micro insult. @p4, the question is why are you curious? Is it to vindicate your guessing skills like it seems to be for most people who ask, or is it to learn about cultures? If the latter you can learn about cultures naturally through getting to know someone without opening the conversation up with a question that usually turns people off.

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